My love language is quality time.

All of my closest friendships and most of the women I've fallen for all stem from meaningfully interactions. I love when people take the time to reach to me and check in, which motivates me to do the same as much as I can. The problem I have is that I am insecure about what to say or how I come off to people. Many women and my mom have said I can be intensive and rude when I don't mean to and I end up pushing a lot of people away because of it. But I still call I still text people when I can and who have a personal relationship with. Also it's taken me longer to get over a girl i had feelings for a year ago and I'm afraid that this is stealing time away from me. In the meantime I'm putting myself out there and approaching other women to practice on being kinder and polite. I would like some advice on what I can do. Thank you and have a wonderful day.