My (19F) embarrassing inability to get over him (21M)

Hello.. I should start by saying we only dated for 3 weeks. That is the most important part to this, because now I am stuck in this weird abyss of not being able to move on. We started talking in mid November. In a very meet cute kind of way! We made jokes about our professor in class, we walked out together, the next class I went to he wrote me a note saying he wanted to finish our conversation (dropped it on my desk while pretending to trip), he bought me a caffeinated chocolate bar: said how I mentioned I take a nap before night classes because I wake up so early for work. We went on dates, he really did the romance part. Brought out a piano in downtown San Antonio (couldn’t play bc the outlet would fit), went hiking and had our first kiss on the outlook, he went to my Friendsgiving and I went to his friend’s leftover pie hangout. Things were going good, at least I thought they were. After 3 weeks of this, I felt so at ease. I found someone I want to wake up next to everyday, I want to hear about his day and the work drama, or about how when he was a kid he always went to blockbuster. I have a guy friend, we’ll call him Z. Z and I dated but it didn’t work out we were always better as friends. After being broken up (if you could even call what we were doing before a relationship) Z and I had sex. I was seventeen and lost my virginity in a very traumatic way, so Z seemed like the ideal match. BUT IT WAS THE WORST SEX EVER! So we naturally went back to being bros. Well after 3 weeks of being happy w the boyfriend, Z and I were going on a day trip to the beach (4 hours away)! I was so excited. I wanted the boyfriend to come, but he had work, so I didn’t ask. That night when I got back he broke up with me. Said he has been thinking about it for a week now and cannot get over his ex (broke up 9m prior after a 3y relationship). I told him I understand and that i would always be there for him friend or something else. Well we stopped talking. Here and there I shared some memes but for the most part nothing. We went to meet for coffee sometime in late December and he shared a song he supposedly wrote about me. But never made any hint of getting back together even though it talked about falling in love but being haunted by his own personal struggles. We then started texting in early January and made plans for a date! We met at UTSA after I got finished with my classes and got boba then went to the park. Well after the date I was left feeling confused, are we friends? What are the boundaries? I just wanted to know where the line was so I wouldn’t cross it, I wanted to stay in his life. When I expressed my concern on what are we, he got very defensive but still assured me that there was no one else and I made his knees weak. Wow. Me? I made his knees weak? He made me feel so content with just a simple smile. But still he said he was still trying to “love himself” and that when he does he wanted me there with him. So we part and end up texting throughout the day. Sending cute wholesome memes and having a great conversation. I accidentally sent the wrong tweet to him. I sent him one that was directly about what he did to me (the tweet went like: males have the audacity to say things are moving too fast when they constructed the whole relationship). He got extremely upset about how hurt he was that I thought that way. That I sent a tweet about him to my friends and laughed. But it was simply a tweet that reflected a similar situation. Anyways we haven’t talked since then. He has unfollowed me on every social media platform as of 3 weeks ago and even unfollowed my Spotify. The thing is HE HAS MY FAVORITE PAIR OF GLASSES. I left them in his car in the beginning of our relationship and he finally found them and gave them back on our boba tea date. But he was running late when he dropped me back off at the university, so I rushed out of the car and left them again.

I want my glasses back, but I also want him back as well. Do I cut my losses?