My first findom potential went bad and now I feel worthless.

I’m (33/f) in a very happy relationship with my boyfriend (35/m) but I want a new iPhone and some things that cost money. Boyfriend tells me (2 or 3 times) about this findom thing where rich men buy stuff for girls and get off from their using the things.

I decided to try it (with his blessing. As long as nothing sexual is asked of me) and got a guy offering me four grand’s worth of stuff every month in exchange for regular communication.

Sounded like a good deal so we decided to talk over Skype. We had a call last night and he said he wants me to wear lingerie. I said no. It violates the no sex stuff rule. He said he’d think about it and tell me in a couple of days.

I tried to explain where the line was and he just hung up on me and disappeared from the internet. He went from offering me the world to cutting me off like a diseased hand all because I didn’t want to wear underwear for him!

My boyfriend is being very sweet to me but I feel horrible because this guy rejected me. Also I’m hormonal because of my period just starting so I’m ridiculously sensitive at the moment.

Rant over and I still feel shitty.