F22 - NEED HELP FIGURING THIS THING OUT - STARTED AS FWBS NOW I DONT KNOW WHAT WE ARE :/

soooooo it all started 2 years ago. we (currently F23 M22) matched on tinder and got talking. we knew beforehand that we had met in 2009 once (our schools would visit each other on trips). we have a lot of mutual friends. we got to talking and met - it was my first date and lead to my first kiss :D (2018)

he went to college in a different city, so soon after that, he left for college. we didn't talk for those couple of months that he was away but when he came back for holidays later that year, we met again and hooked up. (nov 2018) it was a great night! again! anyway, he left for college right after and we didn't keep in touch.

cut to summer 2019, he's graduated and back in my city to work. I hit him up but he keeps turning me down and acts really cold. But then messages me in Aug wanting to meet up - I brought up something from the past that led to a fall out which ended with him apologising and saying sorry for making me feel hurt. he also said that he wouldn't bother me again. I wanted to still be friends and end on a good note so i told him how much of a good time it always was with him and that i think he really is a good guy.

Suddenly nov 2019, I hear from him again. (I'm happy about it!) he apologises again, asks me to meet him for coffee. we meet and coffee turns into drinks and we're in a club and next thing i know we're at it. we meet 2 weeks after that and get a hotel room to spend the night together. (all of this happened at a time when life was super shit - sexual assault, lost all my friends, family things. him coming back was a major silver lining)

The next time we met after that was a month later (exams, work, family emergencies). 2020 begins. we see each other pretty often through jan - but mostly at night once his parents are asleep and i can sneak in. i leave right after. end of jan we go out and I meet his friends! (so he told them about me before I got there, so I dont know how he introduced me - as a fwb or what :/) I had a lot of mutual friends with his friends too so it was a chill night. Two weeks after, I had him meet one of my closest friends (who is actually his distant relative lmao but they had never met. they only knew of each other). They really hit it off. it was great! (this happened 1st weekend of feb). but since then, we haven't spoken much. we haven't texted or met. i messaged him a couple of times only to be met with one word replies or nothing. :/

i dont know what's up - if something is even up. also we've never had a dtr talk or anything close to it. we started as fwbs but now i really dont know what we are. i really really like him tho. im also not sure how to start a dtr talk or tell him that i have feelings for him. i have a major feeling that he feels the same way about me (why else would he have come back after the fall out? why else would i have met his friends?). Also, the other thing is he might be leaving from Italy in August and he told me this the day that he met my friend (the last time we met after which we havent spoken properly).

the funny thing is, he was my first date and kiss. in the middle, i went out with so many guys and fucked around but at the end of the day (a year and a half later) we still ended up together. when we first matched, i told him i had swiped on him as a joke because i knew who he was and that we had met before and i just wanted to see if would swipe right too. funnily enough he had and i then told him that "GOOD THINGS WILL COME OUT OF THIS COINCIDENCE." and oh man, they sure did. till rn i guess :P :/

BUT UM ANYWAY YEAH JUST SUPER CONFUSED AND DONT KNOW HOW TO MOVE AHEAD WITH HIM AND NEED AN OUTSIDER'S PERSPECTIVE/HELP WITH THIS. (hence the deeeets). help me out reddit fam.