Should I go back to living on campus?

Short story short, home life is terrible for me, especially due to past traumas. I can’t focus, I don’t have a lock on my door, my sisters come in and out of my room when I do my work and/or try to sleep. I let them know of my schedule and have talked about them not barging into my room for a while now and there’s still no progress. They bring their friends into the home despite the lockdown situation, and they argue often. There’s always noises in the house and my sisters are working from home, one right next to my room doing phone calls all day and one doing phone calls downstairs. I’ve tried to make my room look like my apartment and rearrange things but to no avail. My dad is also older now and very prone to getting sick, so we’re always worried about staying away from him in case we do have something.

I got approved to stay on campus, but my family convinced me to come home for the time being. We don’t know how long this lockdown will last and I don’t have a car to travel, so I have to rely on family or public transportation (definitely not taking the train at this time) to get to and from New Brunswick and home (about a 30-40min drive). I was dealing with a lot of bad news at the time that I decided to come back home (breakup, unsure of my job status, couldn’t afford therapy anymore, etc.), but things have been looking up. Luckily I’m feeling less lonely about the breakup, I still am getting paid from FWS, and CAPS is setting me up with a new therapist next week.

My roommates aren’t in the apartment, so it’ll be just me and I’d definitely feel more at ease with getting schoolwork done and having a peace of mind. But my family is worried about me getting stuck on campus and eventually running out of food and just general concerns for my safety.

Any advice on what I should do, or is there anyone in a similar situation? I’m thinking of going back soon since I really need to do well to keep my current scholarship and get another one (needs a 3.7 and I have a 3.7 right now), and I just don’t feel comfortable being home, never have been. I’m just worried about the unclear timeline of the situation at hand.

Posted Mar 26, 2020, 6:51 PM UTC

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TheYardIsMine•

If you are approved I think you move back. Make a list of pros and cons and I think you will very quickly see that your pros far outweigh the cons. You will feel in control of your life more - this has to be about YOU!

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reliabilityeng:Spongebob:•

Concerning your scholarship, you could probably pass/no credit all of your classes to keep the 3.7

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thewisebrownkid:Business:•

At this point you have to move out by 4/14 so you just can maybe go back for the next 3 weeks but you are gonna be back home soon anyways

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hc615•

rutgers email said we are allowed to stay for the time stated in the “contract”

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_gansmadchenOP:Goose:•

Thank y’all for responding! I’ve decided to go back to my apartment until I move out on 4/12. I feel a lot better and hopefully all goes well here and at home! :)

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