Can we discuss marriage counseling?

This has been bouncing around in my mind lately :

Is marriage counseling Biblical? If not, can we make it Biblical?

Here’s why I ask:

Most marriage counseling seems to be initiated by the woman as most divorce is. Of the people I’ve personally hear of, the women initiates and the [usually] church gives terrible advice how she needs to make boundaries and stand up for her rights and he needs to be more passive.

It seems like a way for a woman to reject her husband’s authority so she can listen to someone else (a clear discrepancy with the Bible where it says to submit to your own husband, not someone else) AND/OR get someone else to corroborate her feelings (we know how dangerous those are) and bend the husband to her will (authority). It sounds such like a mess.

I was forced into counseling when I was an unruly teenager and it was pointless, hurtful, and more, so I can imagine grown men would also hate being dragged there.

The bible gives us ways to deal with marriage problems so, at best, I feel so-called marriage counseling is useless.

1: if a husband is being abusive, call the police

2: if you have “irreconcilable differences”, submit. It’s not submission if you agree, anyway.

3: Titus 2 tells us women to learn about marriage and motherhood and femininity from older women

4: if you really need a fourth option, Matthew 5, maybe? But that’s really for others in the body of Christ, I feel like the position of husband comes before “brother in Christ”

These are slightly unfiltered thoughts I’ve jut been mulling over with myself so I’d like to hear everyone’s thoughts and really grind it out.