FRUSTRATED MAMA VENT
I don’t know how to start this I’m just so incredibly sad and frustrated and my best friend is due in a couple of weeks so I don’t want to stress her out with my problems which is why I’m here.
My son is a chunkier boy. He’s always been. He’s extremely healthy. Never once did we have any health issues (knock on wood.) yesterday my husband came home and his parents were here. He made a comment that I should feed him less because he’s fat. He is 8 months so I snapped and said, “you did not just ask me to put an 8 month old baby on a diet.”
Anyway today his mom is here and I fed him some solids 1hr ago he didn’t eat much and he’s not drinking much of his formula. So I made 120ml for him before his nap. And she makes a comment “he ate an hour ago.” IM so upset that they have the nerve to make these comments. He’s not obese, he’s very healthy.
I’m just so angry.. I had nowhere to vent. Why do people feel the need to tell me how to feed or raise my child?
OHHH and earlier husbands father asked if we should put baby in the pool. So I went to check the weather and his mom who is ALWAYS cold said NO it’s not hot. It’s 27 Celsius.. it’s HOT. pool would have been fine. I put warm water in it anyways. So I went for a walk with the baby because I’m just so fed up.
I’d upload a pic of baby but I don’t know how to to the thread.
Posted Jun 6, 2020, 7:25 PM UTC
You are 100% right. Baby is not fat. Babies can’t be “overweight”...they only eat when they are hungry. Almost all babies get cute and round in months 6-12, because once they start crawling/walking/RUNNING they burn calories like a hummingbird. No pediatrician will tell you to moderate calories for an infant under two, because they grow so fast at that age and they need energy for proper brain development.
Sounds like your MIL has her own issues with body dismorphia or an eating disorder, and is projecting it onto your baby. Deal with it however you want — ignore her, educate her, say something snarky (my personal fave)...just know you are definitely right! You got this mama! Enjoy your walk!
Thank you! And it’s very true. Some days he eats quite a bit other days a lot less. He eats when he’s hungry. I’d like to be snarky but English is her second language so it may be interpreted wrong.. I’d rather not be on their bad side 😂