I'm finally being listened to!

Long post and on mobile but I’ll do my best for formatting! Hope I’ve used the right flare.

I’ve been child free for as long as I can remember but only since joining this sub have I become aware of the options open to me that don’t involve being on the pill for the rest of my life.

I have been on the combined pill since I was 15 and I’ve definitely felt the side effects which haven’t been helping my underlying mental issues so I decided to try and get a more permeant solution.

Already haven gone to my doctors twice about getting a bi scalp and both times getting turned down because ‘I’ll change my mind in 5 years time’ and ‘you’ll disappoint future boyfriends/husband by not having kids’, good old faithful if ‘you’ll meet a guy who makes you want to have kids’ amongst all the other bingos were said too; I didn’t have much hope for my phone call appointment today.

My latest scrip for the combined pill was up and needed renewing, I had complications earlier in the year because of it and was suggested that I’d have to change what I used it but they wouldn’t discuss it until later. So this is now later and I booked to discuss my options and mentioned again how I want to be sterilised.

It was such a breath of fresh air! I mentioned I’d been on the combined for so long and wanted something that didn’t involve hormones; looking at the bi scalp ultimately and she asked why.

The phone call became a bit of a welfare call with me giving my reasons; emotionally and physically abusive mother who has said she’d take any kid I did have away for months at a time, my depression, anxiety and lack of any support amongst other things.

She listened, said that it’s not recommended because of the chance of me changing my mind but she didn’t fight it too hard. By the end of the call she said she understood my desire for sterilisation and would be willing to recommend me to have it done if I had some counselling!!!

I have a follow up call a week from tomorrow to see how I am and checking that it wasn’t me just having a bad day but she’s happy with pushing me forward!

I’m stunned! I’m so happy and excited and relieved that I’ve been listened to and been taken seriously!!

If this goes ahead, I’ll add her to the list if she gives me permission and to anyone still fighting; be honest with them. As soon as I opened up about my reasoning, the years of abuse and trauma, she fought against me less and started to talk seriously.

Also to add; I had spoken to my dad about not wanting kids and he is understanding and supportive, having my ex’s sister willing to be a surrogate for me if I do change my mind (I won’t) and having co workers willing to write letters to the doctor to state I was serious all helped show that I have thought it through and spoken to people about this. It wasn’t a snap decision and was in my best interest!