So you Want to Get Married....
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thehairpin.comPosted Jun 21, 2011, 5:35 PM UTC
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thehairpin.comLove-making didn't mean "to have sex" then, it meant "the act of courtship," which is actually good advice.
Overall I thought this advice was fair for the stated goal.
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I agree. Of course, the sex-negativity isn't charming, but some of it is practical advice, especially:
"Did you ever stop to think what he will be like when he is ninety, his looks gone, his rheumatism making dancing impossible, his tongue stilled by constant repitition of sweet nothings which have lost all meaning, not in the least adorable as an untidy, careless old man? Hold this picture, and this picture alone, of him for one solid week. If you still think as such he is 'perfectly adorable, a darling sweet thing,' you probably love him."
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Yeah, I liked that bit too. Plus discouraging the emotionally immature from getting married. I mean it's obviously not PC, but it seems to mostly be trying to remove the veil of a romantic fairy tale wedding, which was likely an even more important message in its time.
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Given the time period, I think most of it was reasonable.
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Damn this relentless periodicity!!
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I see the word periodicity, I think "atomic radius decreases across a group."
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I suddenly have the urge to vomit.
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Hmm. I actually think there was a lot of good advice there. Except, of course, for the whole men are natural leaders stuff (and some others as well). I guess sexism changed, but the strategies to a happy marriage are always the same?
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They still print this kind of thing for girls today. My roommate's sister is a hardcore Southern Baptist from TX and she had one. We were staying in the sister's room when I came to town (she had twin beds so me and my roommie/friend could stay in the same room) we were looking at her bookshelf and decided to read most of it. My favorite piece of advice was that you should never, EVER lay down in the presence of your guy, because clearly that leads to sex. Remember ladies, if you ever want to get married, keep both feet on the floor!
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Well to be fair, it often is the case!!
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What the...
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I like the 'don't marry based only on fluttery feelings' part, but the rest was a mess.
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This actually started out decently well. Honestly, you do need to be a real adult before committing to a life with someone else. A lot of people get married when too young and/or too immature. And it is important to consider growing old with this person, after their looks have left them.
After that, wow, bad news. Day care is UNNATURAL!
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Wow. From the excerpts, this is right up there with Fascinating Womanhood.
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In one of my Women's Studies classes we read this book called "The Rules" and it was all about rules women have to follow if we're ever going to find a man. Needless to say, we tore it to shreds in discussion.
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On the whole, I think it's rather good advice if one wants to marry a nice Catholic boy. :-)
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Even the bit about staying home can be good advice, although I would say it could apply to men just as readily and the reasoning is wrong.
Certainly though having one parent who can spend a ton of time with the kids is a good thing.
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Really? People think more time with the kids is undesirable from a developmental perspective? Get off the high horse.
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"Hats: do not even ask." haha. awesome.
"Hats: Not even once."
Given the time period, I think most of it was reasonable. .