The thing about gaslighting...

...is there are so many text posts floating around, apparently listing examples of what gaslighting sounds like but utterly lacking in explanation or nuance.

Anyone else noticed this?

A particularly flippant Instagram text post ("Gaslighting Sounds Like") can list such things as:

• I never said that
• I didn't do that
• you twist things
• you're so sensitive

...and yet I said all of these things to my ex when they were splitting me black.

No wonder it was so easy for them to turn it back on me.

I stand by every word: they were hypersensitive, often to the point of ludicrous, they rewrote history constantly with a combination of word salad and flat out lies, and they certainly tried to use things they claimed I'd said, against me in arguments whenever they'd decided a mood was a fact.

But every now and again I'll be browsing the Explore in Instagram and somethin like this will pop up on the ol algorithm, and I'll get that familiar pang of doubt.

Because they called me a narcissist, and sometimes I think that fear will be with me forever.