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IntheCenterRing

Please stop posting Selfies, it’s against the subreddit rules

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To clarify, it’s against the subreddit rules if they are not in the Selfie Saturday mega thread. Selfies are considered pictures of the user so any picture of yourself (or your pet, or gf, or wedding - outside of the megathreads) is against the rules.

This subreddit is alive and well and a great place for advice and discussion with a good meme in there because of the subreddit rules. There are other wlw subreddits that would love your any time selfie, but please read the rules and abide by them.

Best to everyone!

Posted Aug 20, 2020, 3:30 AM UTC

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InutileSpecimen•

Just look at r/LesbianActually to what happens if you get lax with the selfie policy. There's almost nothing but selfies there now. It's become another r/dykesgonemild.

There's nothing wrong with selfies, but there's a place for them and in this subreddit it's in the selfie thread.

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AmyLucyRose•

What happened with r/LesbianActually is that it was overrun with transphobes, selfie’s aren’t the issue. I guarantee you if I post my face there I will be bombarded with hateful comments.

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InutileSpecimen•

One doesn't preclude the other. A subreddit can have more than one problem.

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robotic-rambling•

😥 but the rules say trans women are women...

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AmyLucyRose•

The rules aren’t enforced, I can tell you that for sure 😆

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Maybe_A_GoddessLesbian•

I appreciate you making this post and hope you have a wonderful day.

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IntheCenterRingOPRed Gay•

I appreciate your appreciation and also hope you have a good day!

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pupinsudz•

I just wish more of the mods were willing to actually explain what rule users break when they remove a selfie post.

When they remove it without taking the time to leave an explanation people don't have a chance to learn.

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IntheCenterRingOPRed Gay•

While I agree it could help, the mods are also pretty busy already and it would be a lot less effort for their small volunteer team for people to just go read the rules if they notice that their post is removed.

It is, after all, the responsibility of community members to be educated about posted rules, rather than for the mods to go one by one to spoon feed the rules to people.

And I don’t mean all of this as a negative thing. I’ve accidentally broken a few rules on different subreddits and had my posts removed and it is a little jarring but it’s not like the end of the world or anyone else’s fault besides from one’s own.

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pupinsudz•

It's not a small team, there are a TON of mods relative to the size of this community. I've messaged them about the selfie rule before. One of them sent me a direct response and said that unfortunately only a handful of them are actually active.

My guess is there's actually too many mods, so most of them don't care about the community enough to be invested in it. With such a huge team a lot of them probably assume someone else will take care of it. Usually leaving it to the same handful of people who work really hard.

It's not that difficult to copy and paste a rule explanation before you remove a post, I do it all the time before I report selfies. Otherwise it's not fair to the user who doesn't understand what happened. And it's not fair to the handful of active mods to shoulder all the work.

Edit: for privacy I'm not sharing the specific mod's username, but here is part of the message they sent me: >"Truth be told, this modteam is increasingly inactive and fairly poor at communicating with one another, minus a few of us."

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IntheCenterRingOPRed Gay•

If it’s not fair to the handful of active mods to shoulder the work, then why suggest for them to copy and paste a rule explanation ie adding more work to what seems to be a small actually active volunteer group - according to what you’ve said here - instead of the community members to read posted rules either before or after their post is removed?

It’s not like users are being arrested, they can just come back another time to post their selfie?

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pupinsudz•

Because people don't read, and often don't even know where to find the sidebar or rules.

If mods are already in the process of removing a post, providing an explanation isn't that hard or time consuming. Again, I think it's unfair to the user not to provide an explanation. Like you said they could just come back, unaware they ever did anything wrong. You don't get notified when a post is removed you'd just have to figure it out.

Inactive mods when they have such a huge team is a separate problem. My suggestion when I talked to them was to assign specific mod duties. Assign one or two people specifically to monitor the selfie rule.

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ThereIsOnlyStardustMODWorld's gayest Bee 🐝•

The bigger issue is that the mod tools vary across platforms. It’s really easy to leave removal reasons on desktop using the toolbox extension where as on mobile you would have to hand type out every message/comment. Which is perfectly reasonable to do for a couple of posts but is a far more daunting task if there’s 50 items in the queue.

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pupinsudz•

If some mods are hand typing responses for common rules breaks that's silly. I assume behind the scenes you guys have a master template of standard language for responses to common situations?

When I worked somewhere with heavy email correspondence with customer complaints, we shared a Google Doc with a list of common responses. Uniform language, that way no one comes across too harsh or appears to have personal bias.

There's lots of notepad apps for phones where those common pre-written responses could be stored, to just quickly copy and paste when a mod is on the go.

If a user needs additional explanations for their specific problem beyond the approved responses, they'll ask. And a custom response can be hand written at that point if needed.

Going further, you could assign escalations like that to specific mods who have more free time or desktop access (and/or seniority). And leave the pre-written responses to those on mobile who only have time for a quick template response.

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[deleted]•

If they are too busy to write “selfies are only allowed on the x thread” then maybe they should stop being a mod and take care of their stressful lives. Or if being a mod is too busy, get more mods.

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IntheCenterRingOPRed Gay•

Or if people are too busy to read posted rules, then maybe they can have their post removed, then realize maybe they should read the rules, read the rules, and then move on with their lives?

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[deleted]•

Maybe they read the rules and just forgot, and maybe a quick reminder would be nice and make the deletion less jarring. But maybe the mods are too stuck up to bother.

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AmyLucyRose•

Then the rules are bad

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IntheCenterRingOPRed Gay•

Then you can use other subreddits that don’t have that rule, or other social media platforms, and use this subreddit for what you do like, easy peasy. Or just post on Saturday, like everyone else :D

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AmyLucyRose•

I don’t like posting selfies I just wish there were more selfies of others 😆

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