How do you have angry sex when you're not angry sex people?

Really truly angry sex is not enjoyable for both parties. It isn't. What you're looking for is frustration. Angry sex is good for the person who feels justified in their actions, scary for the other party. The best way to replicate frustration, would be teasing. Don't have sex. Do everything else, but no oral, vaginal, anal sex. Go as long as you can. And then start bantering, back and forth. Teasing, pushing. And then kiss him. Good luck

Pick the tiniest point of difference you can.
So which way rolls of toilet paper are placed, facing out or facing the wall? Which sportsball team is the best? Nothing that your relationship has to agree on to survive.

Then you announce your way is the best way.

Then they announce their way is the best way.

NOT IT ISN'T!

YES IT IS!

NOT IT ISN'T!!

YES IT IS!!

Then progress to slaps and small jabs, then to grappling, try and wiggle out until he's forced to shove his cock into you just to vent frustration

I used antagonize people (playfully) until they were annoyed but not angry, seemed to work well. My current partner won’t play that game so still working on that.

You could try more of seduction and teasing. You mentioned you are into more sensual D/s. So try turning him on and teasing him but never acting on his arousal, you keep at it throughout a day until you both reach the point of frustration and just want to screw each other's brains out. So not really angry sex but more of "I'm going to get you back for making me sooo horny" sex.

In addition, he is not into anything that feels like rape, where I'm not enjoying it or look/act like I'm not enjoying it.

Between this and your indication in the comments that bratty behavior is not going to fly, I think you might be shit out of luck.

I want that primal energy.

This is where you need to focus instead of the red herring that it has to be anger-fueled.

Have you considered a hunter/prey scene? It may be an easier way for your partner to tap into the passion you seek.

For me, it would be difficult to conjour up enough anger to sell the scene, but easy to put that same passion into claiming prey.

Why would you even do that if you two seem to not like it. If bratty behavior is out of question and he doesn't enjoy when it seems like you are not enjoying, there's no way angry sex is gonna happen.

For primal energy, try this: Both of you don't say a word in your next session. Let everything be guided by body language and raw desire. You can fight back if you want to but it is not needed, but don't be submissive, let him get what he wants (given you discussed it before the session) by manhandling you, scratches, pulling and biting as if you were actually his prey. Forget everything besides the moment, make it feel like he just got overwhelmed by desire and needed to take you at that moment, independently if you want it or not.

I had two girlfriends I did this with, fucking amazing.

I don't think it's something you can plan or learn how to do, it's just something that click.

Personally I find arguing arousing. No matter who I'm arguing with I'm likely popping a boner as we yell to one another. From there it's just a matter of taking my partner.

It's not even risky, somehow I just kinda know if it's something I can do or not.

It's only fun if it's fun.

If it's not for you, then why would you like it?

I can pretty much just flip that switch on and go. I just make the choice to ravage my partner, and because they like it, it grows from there. Has he never just tried shove-you-against-a-wall-and-overwhelm-you tactics?

Aside from just doing it, all I can say is that (for me) being slightly drunk tends to magnify this behavior.

Sorry I don't have an answer, but what do you mean by 'predicament'?

It doesn't sound like you'd even enjoy this, honestly?

I don't personally think that anger and sex mix well. I'm more of a power and control person, and powerful people with self-control control their anger, too.

That said, if you wanted strong emotion that hits the negative buttons, why not edging until the other person can't stand it and gets frustrated/angry that way?

Yeah...no. If I get pissed off, its best he just stays away from me.

When you say "angry sex" what is it that you're looking for? You kinda of mentioned the primal energy, but is that not something that would come out in your CNC play? I would a NEVER do anything aggressive to my partner in anger. However there is a type of primal energy that comes with anger and I do fuel it into some of our CNC (or just the extra heavy play, not necessarily CNC). Not I can also "produce" that energy without being angry (though admittedly that takes effort XD). So I think you want to have a clear understanding (for yourself, and for bringing it up with your partner), if what you're actually wanting. Maybe CNC is just really different in my relationship, but the primal energy things kinda comes with it. And of course remember that safe words are still there and to be used, even if you're doing something like that... I mean... That goes even for CNC in my relationship anyway. I would hope so for all relationships. But yeah I think just narrow down what exactly it is that you want and how it differs from what you already have?

It seems what you're really after is primal energy. Any strong emotion can lend itself to this equally well. You don't have to have angry sex in order to achieve that.

What is your ideal energy and what emotion does it manifest from? Do you have any specific fantasies of what you would want this to look like?

There's a lot of scenes in movies that I would be SO down to be involved in. Fortunately, it's attainable. I know that the stereotype is "you can't ever have it like in the movies", but hear me out. In reality the steamy primal sex you're seeing on screen is simulated by actors. It's just role-playing for an audience. That means you too can access this.

The one and only time I had angry sex I wasn't even the one that was upset. My bf had had a really rough day and pretty much threw me on the bed and did whatever. By the time it was over I was honestly confused about what had happened

Just don't?