I have kids. Woman left. Tried dating. This is going to suck...

So I have kids. The mother left me. From what I am told she is seeing a new guy...and girl.

So I am left to find my own companionship. I met a very nice young lady my age and had a nice date. Been talking and everything is well until she finds out I have children.

She says she just got out of a relationship with a guy who had kids and doesn't want to grow attached to my kids as it was painful last time to leave them when leaving the guy.

I have a feeling this isn't a one off girl either. This is going to suck.

Advice? Thoughts? Anything?

BTW I really am not looking for a replacement mother at this point in time either. Just a girl I can take out, dance with, cuddle up to a movie, laugh with, feel the touch of female human being once again on a regular basis... that kind of thing.

Posted Jul 19, 2011, 4:44 AM UTC

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theninjaforhire•15 yr. ago

Yeah, it it. I'm a single mom and to be honest it does preclude me from a lot of relationships. I just try to keep positive and tell myself that the right person for me isn't going to view my daughter as a problem. She is the most important person in the world to me and someday I'll find someone great. But yeah it does suck. ::hugs::

MidnightDreamer•15 yr. ago

Yup, being a single parent and having children is often a big dampener on relationships. I'm in the same boat. I figure anyone worth my time is going to accept the fact that I have a daughter. It is true, it does suck :(

easycig•15 yr. ago

tell here you don't currently live with your kids, and as much as you and their mom do not get along they still have a mother and are not looking for a new one. She doesn't even have to meet your kids unless you guys get serious until than just tell her she isnt obligated to come over or have date nights when you are with your kids.