Spouses of Reddit: Do you love your husband or wife for the simple fact of who they are or does what they contribute to your life play a part? If they were to become depressed and nonfunctional, would your love for them change?

I love my wife for both reasons. She is an amazing and kind hearted person who cares for others and also makes me feel at ease and at home when I'm near her. She is the love of my life and no one brings me as much joy as her.

Of course I'd still love her if she became "depressed and non functional". I'm am there to help her and be there when she needs me. Through the good and the bad, we are there for each other no matter what.

I think if my wife became depressed and nonfunctional, my love for her may change over time. I would of course put in the work, go to counseling and the like. But I don’t think romantic love/love for your spouse is unconditional. It is usually maintained by mutual effort and caring. So when one spouse stops doing that for whatever reason, it can be damaging to that love.

I adore my husband. He's half broken already, just gonna get worse. It's cool. I was a nursing assistant for years and long since a mother, so I got the ass wiping down pat. We just look ahead and plan accordingly, like installing rails in the bathroom, etc. We do or die together. He's my best friend.

He has put up with my mother for years already, so it's definitely a two way road for us.