How to let go of people that shouldn't be in your life?

All friendship should be constructive, substantial and reciprocal. If it is not... time to re evaluate. You cannot set a boundry and take care of another persons feelings at the same time. It is not their fault they do not give you what you need. But it is our responsibility to put people in our lives that can give us what we really need. The secret to a long life is learning to let go lightly. In order to do that you have to be able to surrender trying to control other people, places and things. The end of what you can control is the tip of your nose.and there is a difference in what you can influence and what you can control. Knowing this difference lets you know what to let go of.

If your problem is that you continue to contact them or them continuing to contact you then perhaps deleting them from your phone, e-mail and social contacts list. Another option is to re-name them in your phone to "Do Not Answer" or some other reminder. Another thought is try to replace them with other people or interests so you don't even have a desire to hang out with them b/c you're too busy doing cool stuff (or hanging out with cooler people). Hopefully other people will chime in with more thorough advice. Best of luck. Remember, you don't get refunds in life. You can't go to the Big Guy Upstairs when you keel over and say, "Hey God, can I have that Saturday back? It sucked and I just sat around." For all we know, this is all we get, so make the best of it and don't waste your time with people you don't want to spend it with!

This is something I've dealt with; particularly, my best friend since elementary.

I had to realize that the kid I knew in grade school is not the man I know now. It was hard. The tipping point was witnessing a woman being beaten by her lover outside of my house (we helped), & knowing that statistically speaking, she would return to him. I saw myself in that abusive relationship.

I didn't say anything like "this is the end of our friendship", I just cut all contact.

You are not alone. Same boat my friend.

When I find myself in a position where my logical side will not reconcile with my heart, and I cant let go of someone, I find the best way to move forward is to throw poo at them. After you throw poo at someone there really is no turning back. The relationship is over. And you got to fling poo. It's a win-win scenario.

well i wasnt the one who was obsessive but I had to do it with my mother as a kid because she was kind of a destructive influence to say the least. You just have to get used to the pain by being blunt the first few times and then it'll get better once the person realizes it