Mind Matters
Mental health and mind set get mention around here alot and for those brave souls looking for the exit it is something they could bennifit from takeing a puuse and thinking about what those 100 billion nurons in your head are up to.
Mental health
No you do not need to be a perfect pictuer of mental health to find sucess in dateing. Though some psychological disorders will complicate you search for romance, depression and anxiety are two prime examples. They can greatly alter how you precive the world and the events that happen to you. Seek out way that you can mange any disorder that you feel you may have. Please note I said mange not master. Only you can decide if a psychological disorder may be a issues. Your own behavior must be causeing you some distress before you should start thinking you may have a issues. I strongly recommend seeking professional assitance if you think this is a problem for you. Gentelemen in the USA that means asking your primary care physican for a refferal and be honest and open with them about what your exprinceing.
Mindset
Mindset is more of a tricky more nebulous concept because this speaks to a person's perceptions and worldview. When all you experiencees with dateing and relationshipes end with failure you can be forgiven for thinking that dateing and relationships are impossible for you. You exprinces can apaer to prove this and any soltion to the contray to this can seem foolish. The first step to fixing this is a dozy you are going to have to convicne yourself you can find relationsips. romance, or what ever it is you seek. Even if you just sort of belive you can will work becuse you can realy start thinkning of how you can do this. Once you adopted a mind set of how do I make this work for me you are well on your way. Do not fall into thinking you need somones valadation stamp to proceed. Once you think you would be a great person to date curious minds will want to know why, and thats how dates happen.
Courtship, dating, romanance, seduction, is a very indvidual thing that starts with you and you alone. You do not need much to begin if you have some mental helath issues do something to mange them, belive you can do this and you are on your way. You then learn how to make it work for you. Once you learn how to make it work for yourself you will see trival things like your height, money, your face, do not matter.
Posted Dec 22, 2020, 2:06 AM UTC
I think there is a lot of good points here. Two things to add is a) setting reasonable expectations and b) willingness to try different things.
For expectations, saying you want a girl who is nothing short of a 10 out there is a bit much. Try to get away from a scale system and consider a yes/no approach with someone who is attractive.. I am not saying settle but this will avoid driving yourself nuts on whether she is an 8.9 vs a 9.2 or whatever. Besides, recognizing no one is perfect but both you and a woman have things to offer other than just physical appearance can open up a few options.
Also, if you have tried a few things to meet women and it hasn't been working, find ways to switch things up. For instance (assuming covid goes away sooner than later), if approaching women with a pick up line gets you rejected 100% of the time, try a friendly "Hello" and a harmless conversation starter. One example is if she is a reading a book in a public place, try to find a way to politely ask her thoughts on the book. If approaching a woman cold isn't working, then maybe consider either online or through friends, etc. Basically, trying different things might be tough but I say it could be worth it.