Weird question... maybe? For those with kids, what do they call you?

For a while, I haven’t minded still being called mom... but it is starting to really bother me. It really got me hard last school year when my kids’ teachers called me Mrs. Lastname. It didn’t help that I was constantly dead named by the school despite constantly correcting them and only introducing myself with one of the names.

They kept asking my kids about their mom... which only reinforced the deadnaming and misgendering.

I was thinking of using Mada. I use it in my stories with an entire enby race of characters. But... I’m not sure if it will work.

Even more so, what is the best way to get kids to change it? One of my kids is autistic, so I have to be very careful or he will get really confused.