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r/Anxiety•
dkrizzy

Turning down promotion

Work/School

Has anyone dealt with fight or flight with a promotion?

I was asked my my manager if i was open to being a supervisor. He said i need to work on some soft skills, (Like talking to people more comfortable).
I was excited at first but now i am so anxious thinking about dealing with people and conflict (Main triggers of my anxiety).

Now i am feeling down thinking about turning it down, and not sure what to do.

Has anyone have similar experience?

Thanks!

Posted Jan 7, 2021, 1:53 PM UTC

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AgentOfEris•

It can be daunting to take on more responsibilities, but it is also an opportunity to grow. I have found the best way to work through my issues is to confront them directly. So if you were to take on this new role, you’d have more opportunities to work on these things. Think of it not only as an opportunity for your career, but as one for your personal growth as well!

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dkrizzyOP•

Thank you! Yeah I was worried about regretting it. This morning I woke up almost with a panic attack and wanted to email my boss and said I'm no longer interested. I know it will be the best.

I work in IT so I'm used to not having to deal with people that often.

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pinkblanketdot•

public speaking/presentations are triggers of my anxiety and i recently started working a new job as a teacher. i figured that i should stop escaping from my anxiety and face it head on.

today is my 5th day and i just taught my first two classes. it went great and i feel so good now! but obviously i was panicking and crying for the past few days because the thought of talking to people while standing at the front SCARES ME.

what i’m trying to say is, you may feel very overwhelmed by the job scope in the first few days, but you might eventually get used to it and maybe even enjoy it. i think you can tell your manager about your worries, but i think you should go for the role if you are really interested in it!

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dkrizzyOP•

Thanks for your insight! This makes me feel better! Covid has pushed me back a bit with my anxiety since I have been secluded for a long time.

Unfortunately my triggers are people being upset with me and talking to group's which this should help with.

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pinkblanketdot•

oh yes i totally understand that. getting anxious when people are upset with me is something i have to work on as well. when people get upset with me i would feel like i haven’t done enough, or i did not meet their expectations. like i wasn’t perfect enough. but i told myself it is ok to make mistakes sometimes, and most likely people will forget once you have improved. they won’t be upset for too long! i confide in my friends to get some reassurance when things like that happen, but i think i should search for a long term solution as well. hope you’ll overcome your fears too!

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