Raising Boys

Decolonize Spirituality

Not sure if this is allowed

Parent/ guardians/kinship witches or people that know children etc.

If you, like me are white with sons and look at them and hope they do not grow up in to misogynistic racist assholes... well rest assured like me, raise them properly.

By properly I mean:

Not be racist

Be true about the horrible history that white people that are romanised and colonised have done to everyone else

As situations and history is created, tell them what is there difference between white and black people doing something have different outcomes (especially with police).

Demonstrate telling racists off and sticking up for people that are being bullied

Tell your child or even someone else’s child off for being racist or even a bully

Explain why peoples hair is different but all hair dreads (mine does if I don’t look after it).

Tell about the genocide of First Nations peoples

Tell the history about how Germanic Tribes were invaded, raped and enslaved by Romans and how Europeans adopted Roman rules by giving up when their sons and daughters were stolen

Check the social media and internet history on your kids phone/computer to see if they are not being radicalised by q&a etc.

So above is just some examples...

We can all do the job of parenting... even if we’re not a parent. It takes a community to raise a child.

If your kid ends up being an ass; you can clearly look at yourself and say I did everything in my power to prevent that.

I will say this: you are doing a fantastic job even if it’s a very shit time

Edit:

If you’re going to comment and then block... grow up

Posted Jan 8, 2021, 2:46 AM UTC · edited

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research_humanity•

Kittens

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HonestDeathOPLiterary Witch ♀♂️☉⚧•

Yeah!! Fantastic adds there!

I only had some examples

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MirensGhost•

🙏 thank you for these additions. A gentle-reminder from the like-minded is welcomed and appreciated!

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Vladmir_Puddin•

Wow these are all excellent goals.

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Lordofthe7thplanetWitch ♂️•

I'm having a hell of a time convincing my 7yo stepson that he can't play predator games with his 21 month old sister. Like every day he's chasing her around being a tiger wolf or velociraptor. He used to like playing horses, puppies or kitties with his older sister but now he's only interested in the predation side of the animal kingdom.

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HonestDeathOPLiterary Witch ♀♂️☉⚧•

I don’t have answer for I’m not there... yeah, cognitive development of perception is difficult. Could distract him with fish.

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_Weatherwax_•

I'll add: build real relationships that take time. Do stuff together. Laugh. Cook. Take time to talk. Listen. Resist the urge to lecture.

And then I'll say: nobody warned me how fraught parenting teenagers would be. Holy hell.

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