How do I move on from such a great person

Me and my girlfriend of 2 years broke up 5 months ago because of long distance/minor relationship problems that came from the pandemic/not being able to progress. I was still in college, and she was working full time (she’s 1 yr older), and since I thought we’d end up together after college, I had the mindset that I wanted to spend my last year with my best friends and then she would get all of me after college when we were in the same place. She ended up getting me a job in Chicago which is right in between our hometowns, and now that I officially moved into the city and live fairly close to her, I asked her to get drinks last week to try and rekindle things.

Afterwards, I told her I wanted a real shot at a relationship since I actually had the time to invest in it and we were finally in the same stage of life. She was very polite, but after thinking a lot about it said she felt she was no longer interested in trying again and thinks we should both move forward.

I still love this girl more than anything. We get along well, hangout with the same mutual friend group from college and have a lot in common. She just doesn’t believe that things will be different, and I know I can give her so much more than I did in those challenging previous years.

How can I either convince her to give me a shot, or move on from this girl that I see myself with, someone I have never even fought with, someone who has never tried to make me jealous...I’ve met a lot of people in life and she is, by a mile, the most beautiful, genuine and overall quality person that I have ever known. I just have no reason to cut her out of my life, so this makes it especially hard.

Posted Jan 18, 2021, 6:06 PM UTC

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