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CelStrider

It occurs to me one area where prochoice/life people may agree is on the enforcement of open adoption agreements.

Pro-Life General

Quite often adoptive parents go to adoption agencies sign paper work agreeing to allow the birth parents contact and then ghost the birth parents. This turns potential mothers off from adoption because it causes unnecessary emotional distress to the birth parents and child. I think it would be good if the enforcement of open adoption contracts became a topic more people advocate for because it would likely reduce abortions a bit. It also should be a fairly bipartisan so I think it could happen if people start pushing.

Posted Jan 22, 2021, 6:36 PM UTC

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RubyDiscus•

Lack of rights turns adoptive parents away from it. If the open adoption is not enforced. If private adoptions are allowed it basically prevents it from being enforced. Then some birth parents may want closed adoption but aren't allowed. Also the man's signature is required so if it's from rape or an abusive relationship it creates huge issues for the woman. Or if he even wants to keep the baby himself he could just lie then not sign the form after birth and claim the baby.

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Armchair_Therapist22•

I think open adoption has many pros and cons to it. What is more important is what’s in the best interest of the child. However, I don’t think it should be enforced legally because I don’t feel like the adoptive parents owe contact and pictures of their child. The whole purpose of adoption open or closed is you don’t have any claim to the child anymore, even though you have a biological connection the adoptive parents are the child’s real parents.They're the ones who are changing diapers, giving parental guidance, and paying for the child's necessities. The pros are that the child has family and medical history which can be useful later on when the child wants to know the bigger questions. I think if women would choose abortion over adoption because open adoption isn’t legally enforced than maybe it would be in the better interest to have more crisis pregnancy centers or aid to women who want to raise their child.

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CelStriderOP•

The purpose of the adoption and what is owed is defined by the paperwork being signed. I suppose another route to go instead of open adoptions is using temporary or limited custody agreements as a norm.

We just need to get people on the same page with what's going on or adoption will continue to have a bad reputation.

Welfare is fine and dandy too, it's not mutually exclusive.

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Armchair_Therapist22•

Again that isn’t the purpose of adoption. Not only would that deter people from adoption, but adoption isn’t a free babysitting service or boarding program once you place a baby up for adoption that’s it you only have a certain number of days depending on the state to take the baby back after that’s it’s over it’s not your child legally anymore. Even in open adoption you have no legal rights or claims to the child you have given up any chance to be a parent to the person.

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Nulono•

It looks like you accidentally posted this thread twice.

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CelStriderOP•

Thanks. I'll delete the other one

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