Question. Would you take a girl serious if she felt like as a man you have to pay for everything?
Posted Mar 25, 2021, 4:26 PM UTC
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Lol this has got to be the worst generation to be broke. Twitter is influencing public opinion at this point lol
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Its certainly the most opinionated. You cant be broke or sexist but lets keep the remnants from the era where we were broke because of sexism. Lets keep that going.
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I lost brain cells reading the comments. I see the dumbest takes on Twitter regarding dating & money.
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Wow, I could not take a woman seriously who acted like that.
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Twitter.
Why don't you guys just stop with it? How is it enhancing your life?
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Village idiots the world over rejoiced when twitter gave them the platform to spew dumbfuckery from the virtual rooftops and get legions of other dumbfucks entranced.
Its why I’m not on there. Just bad and worse hot takes.
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If your girl views you main contribution to the relationship as financial, you're not her partner, your her sponsor. Those types of relationships are pure stress and doomed from the start.
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These are the type of chicks to leave their relationships homeless and broke then scream MEN AINT SHIT!
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It depends.
As a man, I feel the need to provide. And I don’t necessarily mind the idea of providing for my girl’s every want and need. The problem is that this is the worst generation to be or want to be a provider.
Look at our financial situation. We broke! Unless you make hella bread, but that’s kind of a statistical anomaly these days, dependent on how you define making hella bread. (These days it seems to be six figures, but also adjust for location, the amount of debt you already hold, and so on).
Women who say stuff like this seem to think that because of the things they go through as women, that means the least you can do is be a protector and a provider. Which is understandable. Especially if she’s going to be the mother of your children. Which, let’s be honest, is always going to be kind of an unbalanced “power” scale (though I think that’s a toxic and manipulative way to look at relationships for obvious reasons). However, the idea that you should want to give your all to a woman who’s carrying your child and the child itself isn’t THAT far fetched.
This all just comes down to separation of duties. And conventional gender roles and wisdom. Do you believe men should go to work while women take care of home and the kids? Or do you believe that the duties and responsibilities should be a hundred percent equal and equitable as can be?
Just like men objectify women on a sexual level, there are women who objectify men as wallets. I’m not even saying this applies for our generation, cause obviously, we got a bunch of broke niggas lol. I can’t be mad at women who want a man who has his shit together. Just like women can’t be mad at men for wanting a woman who he likes looking at. But, there are undoubtedly women who look at a man solely for his wallets.
The problem here is when you look at that person exclusively for something you desire that you can’t give yourself. Speaking for myself, I want a fine ass wife. But let’s say she gets an illness that affects how she looks. I would still stay and I like to think I wouldn’t stray as well as feel the need to cheat. Because to me, a relationship is a lifelong commitment beyond things like sex or money. Being horny is understandable but there’s gotta be limits to your horniness. Don’t screw your life over.
Likewise, as a man, I don’t mind if I was rich and women looked at me for my finances, so long as I wasn’t looked at EXCLUSIVELY for them. Do you value me as a person? If I were to go broke, would you still wanna be with me? Are you genuinely attracted? Does your affection for me begin and end dependent on my checkbook? Do you have your own bag, assuming I’m just one accident away from losing my source of income, which, let’s be honest - isn’t far from the truth?
Relationships are about what BOTH of you bring to the table. And obviously the dynamics can be fucked up, because depending on how you look at it, no relationship is always “equal”. One partner may be more attractive, the other may be richer, one partner may be smarter, the other may be less educated and so on. But the point is that ideally both of you enhance each other in some way and bring something to the table. It’s a partnership.
You could say this is a perpetual aspect of history, men with money attract and desire women with sex appeal. How relationships are more or less legalized prostitution. How in some shape or form, all niggas “pay for pussy”.
But to me, that’s an overly bastardized way to look at it. Maybe I’m overly idealistic, idk. Men want companionship, women want stability. In reality, we all want both of these things. They’re hardly exclusive to either gender. In a world where money ain’t a thing, I’d imagine these truths would still hold true.
All that being said this really just depends on who you are. Some men are okay with being a sugar daddy so long as they get sex. And some women are okay with just being used for sex so long as they get their bills paid and luxuries provided.
You just have to discuss and let your expectations be known ahead of time. The more communication, and the sooner all this is communicated, the better.
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“Yung Miami”
🤦🏽♂️ No.
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Fuck no.
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Women should not be modeling their life after Yung Miami. She's in a situation that most women will never even sniff, 0.1% situation. Same goes for dudes and Future.
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Nope especially if she’s citing a scammer
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That person is not an adult sooo...no.
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NO.
I want a partner, not a dependent.
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These conversations are keeping our people in shackles lol
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Lmfao. If a dude paying for mostly anything what he need you around for? To be a bum?
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My wife and I had a few arguments about finances, and how I should be willing to help her financially when we're fully together.
Even she would disagree with this. She always made her own money, but if she asked to have some cash, I usually gave her some.
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What's the point of having your own money if you're just asking others to spend all of theirs on you?
Finances are important in a relationship and discussions should be had about them but a dude spending everything on a woman isn't a healthy balance.
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What do you mean by that last part? How both of the partners tend to be mediocre?
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No, especially if she already has a job.
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A girl I'm just meeting and have no relationship to? No. As a longterm romantic partner and wife I absolutely I would. My job is to be a provider for my wife and my family. However, she has to be willing to contribute back equally in a way that is equivalent to what is spent on her: Make my life easier not harder. Raise the kids, support my goal and vision, etc.
If you look at any team based exercise everyone has different roles and responsibilities. That's because handling different functions make moving towards a larger goal more effective. Having two people bringing exactly the same thing to the table (equal financial split) is doesn't get us anywhere besides where we've been separately.
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If I have to pay for everything because I’m a man then sex about to be on a schedule
More like she gonna have to get pencil'd into my schedule lol