As the title says, first date with a guy tonight, we were supposed to go out at the weekend but he had to reschedule. Now I'm getting a migraine and can't work out whether to risk it or not.
So in general, how bad is it to cancel a first date?
Posted Nov 16, 2011, 4:36 PM UTC
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The problem is we spoke earlier and confirmed, then later I started getting a headache which has moved to my migraine spot. So I feel really bad about cancelling after confirming.
I gotta agree with Appleseedseed here. Just be honest with him and let him know you're interested but shit happens. You want to reschedule if he's still interested and give him some available times. If he is no longer interested then YOU ALREADY KNOW he wasn't the right type to have a relationship with you. Either way, good luck!
Hope you feel better soon!
Yeah, canceling sucks, but so does going out with someone who is in too much pain to be responsive.
If you do have to cancel, just don't end the conversation without rescheduling a specific date and time.
He's going to think you're flaking out because he rescheduled once already lol
I feel your pain. I would cancel, personally, as mine are pretty bad and I end up just having to lay in bed until it subsides. Unless you have something you can take right now that you know will work, I wouldn't risk it. I don't think it'll be bad, it's a pretty understandable reason to cancel.
Cancel, reschedule, then link him to this thread so he knows you're not bullshitting him lol.
I'd cancel, explain why, and immediately reschedule (like, in the same sentence) for the next time you're available and migraine-free. It shows you're still interested.
The potential romance is likely dead. First dates are not reschedulable; the feeling is typically lost. There's no chance your excuse doesn't sound like blowing him off, either...
Just roll the dice & pray, honestly. The advice here others gave is sound - make a time/date clear.
I have migraines so I know how terrible they can be. If it's getting to the point where you really don't think it's worth going out, then reschedule.
There's nothing wrong with it at all, just be upfront. "Hey I wanted to be honest, I have a huge migraine and don't think I can make it out :( I'm really excited to to see you though, can we reschedule for blah blah?"
If he's the type of guy who can't understand that, then he's not worth it. Everyone gets sick and he should be reasonable.
Best wishes and feel better!
Thanks, I've taken some painkillers so hopefully they will kick in soon, not the awesome migraine stoppers as then wont be able to drive.