My cousins' stepsister and weddings
One of my cousin's (not one of the ones in the title) is getting married, and I'm a bridesmaid, so I came to the sub to avoid disasters. It made some memories reappear.
My aunt and uncle got divorced, and eventually they both remarried when the kids were in high school and college. (I'm biologically related to my aunt, and her second marriage was to a woman. I'm saying this because it might get confusing otherwise.)
My cousins really like both of their stepmothers. Their dad's wife was also divorced, and she had three children from her first marriage. They got along pretty well with their stepbrothers, but they had issues with their stepsister. There are two wedding related incidents about her.
First, our grandmother had dementia. The family threw a big party for her because we knew she was going to have to go into a home soon. Apparently, it was the same weekend as stepsister's bridal shower. My cousins made the decision to attend my grandmother's party instead.
During the party, she called my cousins and left voicemails (that they played for me and our other cousins) wherein she called them selfish and said they were ruining her wedding by not attending her shower.
Second, a couple years later, the older of my cousins got married. While I'd met one of the stepbrothers at Thanksgiving at my aunts' house one year, I'd never met the stepsister. We'd been told to sit in the third row during the ceremony. When we went to sit down, stepsister gave us the stink eye and said, "You can't sit here; this is the family row."
We started to move to the next row (while one of my aunts said under her breath, "At least we're actually related to the bride), but my aunt's wife intercepted us and said we were supposed to be in the family row.
Years later, I was talking to my cousin about this, and apparently they don't talk to stepsister anymore.
Posted May 27, 2021, 8:55 AM UTC
I went to goddaughter's wedding in another state, I had never met her new husband's family. I checked seating chart for reception and I was seating in one of the three tables for family. Most of them were busy taking pictures so I grabbed a drink and sit down.
Not 15 minutes later the Karen appears and demands that I move that "this" table is for family. Karen wouldn't listen that I was family and she literally shooed me to the last family table.
After a few minutes, MOB comes and removes the Karen from my original table and points to where I'm sitting. Karen is losing it but she doesn't outrank the MOB. Karen sulks and throws her stuff on my table and sits down. Now I'm thinking, do I have to spend all night with this Karen? Oh yeah, that'll be fun night! There's not enough liquor in the bar to make me forget her!
Suddenly, MOB comes over, "What in the world are you doing over here? Didn't you see the seating chart? You're supposed to be at the other table. You're sitting at the bride's family table."
Me: "I saw the chart and I was over there. However, Karen made me move, she said it was a family table."
MOB:. "Well of course you're family, you're the bride's godmother. Come with me."
Karen is absolutely dying, she was wrong, she's not sitting where she wants and I'm sitting where she wanted to. So MOB and I sit down and wait for the bride and groom to make their entrance while Karen finds the bar.