First heartbreak :(
I never wanted to make a post like this but I just have to get it out...
A few months ago I met this guy online. We immediately hit it off . He told me he was only going to be in NYC for a couple more months and then he'll have to move back across the country. I don't like to get involved with guys who are "just visiting" but something felt different. We had a clear understanding of what this was and both agreed that long distance just wouldn't work for us. And so we began hanging out together 2-4 times a week.
In that time something magical happened. He made me feel things I've never felt in my 25 years of life. A way no guy I've ever dated has made me feel. The way I felt when he held my hand. The way he would run his hand through my hair. Just being with him and experiencing life with him was honestly surreal.
We hung out this Tuesday and I was fine. But Wednesday I woke up crying.
I cried all day yesterday. I cried all day today, and I'll probably continue crying for a little while longer. He'll be leaving Monday, back to his important life across the country and all I will have of him is just memories.
Honestly... I don't want the memories. I don't want to remember him, and I wish we never met. I wouldn't have to feel the hurt I am feeling right now.
We are supposed to hang out 2 more times, but I've been blowing it off. He wants me to see him off the airport. To see him walk away from me for the last time... I just can't.
TLDR: Met a guy who told me he would be leaving in a few months. It's been a few months and now he's leaving. We won't be doing long distance thing. This is the first time I felt my heartbreak .
Posted May 27, 2021, 7:22 PM UTC
Don't be stupid. Make the most of your time together! That's the secret to having no regrets in life: making the very most of your time with people. Envision not that he's leaving, but that the very world is ending.
How would you spend those last two visits? Do THAT.
Then don't focus on the absence, but the beautiful memories. And vow to make more with and for more people going forward.
I never thought of it like that. You're right though... I'll regret not spending these last moments together even if its bittersweet.
I'll try to focus on the moments we are sharing.
From your post, I thought that he had left already. I agree: make the most of your remaining days together.