Need advice on how to deal with my workaholic bf.

I've been a longtime lurker here. Always found lots of helpful advice. But couldn't find a topic already posted that suited my current situation enough. So here I am with my 1st post here.

My bf and I have been together for 4 years. We live together and consider ourselves married. We have mutually decided against traditional marriage. From the very beginning he and I have shared a chemistry and passion like I have never known. It has grown with each passing year. I love my bf very very very much.

Everything has been pretty normal...typical ups and downs. Until the past 6 months. Bf got a huge promotion and went from an agent at his company to a supervisor with 18 people under him. I am so proud of him. For the past six months I have tried to be the best supportive gf I can. I make his coffee for him in the morning and pack his lunches. I bake treats for his entire team once a week. I have left little notes. Our time together has been null so on a few occasions to surprise him I cooked a huge meal and he walked into the house to find dinner and me in heels and lingerie. I have always given without expecting in return.

But I find that's changing. I find myself becoming increasingly resentful. Since he got his.promotion we haven't been on one date. He has actually stood me up twice to go out drinking with Co workers to celebrate deals. He never ever texts me at all during the day and if I happen to text it goes ignored. Always..forget about phone calls. He used to occasionally text or call me on lunches. Not.anymore. some days I will text 2 or 3 times and get no response. He usually works 10 1/2 hour days. Yet when he comes home he is still on his phone emailing and texting with work related stuff all night. He rarely gets a day off even though he is scheduled.to.have 2 a week. He usually works at least one of those. Sex is decreasing.

Today I got the proofs back from a very sexy professional photo shoot I had done. I couldn't wait to show him in person so i texted him one of the best shots. He called me (gasp the.world is coming to an end) to tell me he would be home late yet again. Never mentioned the photo and shooed me off the phone after only a minute.

I have talked to him about this. However he gets really defensive and always has excuses. Nothing ever changes. I asked him last night while we were eating dinner if the emails could wait until we were done. He.got very upset with me. I don't know.what to do. I have a very fun and full life outside of my boyfriend. However I want him to be a part of it. I want my bf back. But.I'm beginning to think this is my new life. Right now I feel so unwanted and even have allowed his dismissal of my photo to make me feel unattractive. And that's so not me. Help!