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hellookitty

Uncomfortable with my new body!

I have been working hard this winter break to get into shape. After battling a long eating disorder, my body was skinny but not healthy. The last couple months, I have been increasing my caloric intake, lifting heavy and following r/fitness and my doctor's advice to get a nice butt and shapely legs. Its been working well so far but I am already uncomfortable with my new womanly figure. I always wanted to have a butt but now that I do, I feel like it draws too much attention and I want to go back to my previously invisible status. My goal was to have a nice figure by the time school starts mid January, but now I want to stop working out and get my flat ass back! I am so close to my goal but I feel like this body shouldn't belong to me. I know that I am being irrational, but I am dreading going back to my cliquey school and people making comments, saying that I have gotten fat or gotten plastic surgery (this is a thing at our school). Please talk some sense in to me twoX!

Posted Jan 6, 2012, 4:38 AM UTC

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[deleted]•

Put your new body to work and take a martial arts class. It will help you feel strong and confident, so you won't give a shit what anyone else thinks.

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ketchup_delivery•

I support this idea. You don't need to get a black belt or take it too seriously even; just learning how your body feels and reacts and what it can do can help you be so much more comfortable with it. My experience with martial arts classes has always been positive. It isn't about how your body looks, it is about how you use it!

I really like Aikido. If you are in the US there may be a dojo at a nearby university! I've just started Karate as well. It's a lot more intense physically but the attitudes of the people are the same. Very accepting, very positive.

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ness36•

I also loved Aikido, it is also a good way to make friends, since you are exercising in pairs and in a group, better than yoga class or aerobics, I think. A group activity like Aikido would be good to try, so that you are exercising with an activity you like, with other people.

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hellookittyOP•

These are some great ideas! I can definitely use some strength, confidence and friendship with positive people.

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ness36•

Also, perhaps you can check out this subreddit: http://www.reddit.com/r/BodyAcceptance/

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hellookittyOP•

Sweet, thanks!

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geezweeze•

Hey, screw other people. Be proud of yourself for coming this far, and anyone who wants to give you shit about getting healthy can kiss your glorious new ass.

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jpstevens•

For a second I thought your first sentence was encouraging her to be more sexually active, which now that I think about it might work.

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hellookittyOP•

I'll do it for science.

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hellookittyOP•

Hehe, thanks for the advice you have a way with words!

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ness36•

Are you in high school? Just remember that once you get out into the real world (i.e. college and jobs) people will never again feel as free to randomly criticize you as they do in high school and middle school. It was almost like a weight was lifted, and I didn't really realize it until I got to the workplace, that people were supposed to be nominally polite and not ask others personal questions or criticize them.

So if anyone says anything to you about your body, that is because they have their own issues, maybe they have mean parents, or they feel bad about their life prospects, etc. Just try to ignore them, tell them it is none of their business.

Honestly if someone asked me if I got ass implants, I would say, yes, and they are worth all the money I spent, LOL!

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hellookittyOP•

It is actually a graduate program and everyone is in their twenties! But because it is so small, everyone is in everyone's business, just like high school. The comments would still stem from insecurity just you said. Maybe I should just let people think that I had an extra 15,000 for ass implants!!

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ness36•

Wow, that sucks that they act that way. That's why I assumed you might be in highschool.

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hellookittyOP•

Tell me about it! I affectionately mentioned to the administrator that if we implemented prom in the spring, it would be an exact replica of my high school experience.

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[deleted]•

First off, congrats on your recovery! You worked really hard to get better, and anyone who has a problem with that, isn't worth worrying about.

Luckily for everyone; high school isn't forever. Someone recommended martial arts, which is a great idea. Or you may want to try yoga, for getting more in tune with your body and accepting it/loving it. Sometimes the healing process is just as much mental as physical <3

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hellookittyOP•

<3 Thanks, I definitely feel myself getting challenged to heal mentally, but that means those muscles will grow back stronger too, right?

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[deleted]•

Now you're thinking the right way :)

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I_Like_Turtles_Too•

That is a major achievement. Congrats!! Of course this new body belongs to you. Be proud of it! Own it! If other people can't appreciate your hard work, than you don't need their opinion anyway. Be confident. Your health is way more important than someone's catty comment.

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hellookittyOP•

So true! Thanks!

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Tori1313•

I went through the same thing. As cliche as it sounds, fuck what others think. Who are they? You don't need their approval. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and if YOU don't start believing it, nobody will.

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hellookittyOP•

" if YOU don't start believing it, nobody will" this is exactly what I needed to hear, thanks!

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Tori1313•

:)

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