It’s been a while

I have a wonderful husband. We have a wonderful marriage. He is kind, he is affectionate and tells me he loves me at least three times a day. But we haven’t had sex for three years. We’ve tried sex therapy, it was ok but to be honest just made us both feel inadequate. I’ve stopped initiating as the rejection is too hard to take and he never did anyway. He’s fine with it but I struggle everyday and it’s so hard not to be resentful when he’s so great in every other way. I’m not sure why I’m posting I think it’s just been so hard and even more so as I can’t tell anyone as it’s mortifying when your husband doesn’t want you as everyone else’s seem to be horny constantly. I’ve also just turned 40 and spent the last few years resigning myself to never having children and having to make up lies to family when they constantly ask which is like a kick in the stomach every time. I guess I’m just wondering if anyone has been through this who is still in a happy marriage and that we can be ok without sex