[FR] picking up cocktail waitresses while at bars.

One of the more challenging questions we ask when we go to a bar or restaurant is always, "Is she flirting with me because she is interested in me or a better tip?" Until recently I thought it was just for the money, then i tried to actually pick up a couple of waitresses and had some luck.

below i will give a summary of the interaction but in all 3 cases i followed the same game plan.

*start with strong eye contact and a smile when meeting them.

*always ask them what they like or what they think i should order (i feel like people love to give advice or their opinion and especially like to teach, so even though i know quite a bit about beers i'll always ask their opinion).

*pull them aside and ask them about their night, how its going and what they did before work today. usually i'll start some kino at this point if its a bar setting and i can stand next to them. i'm a huge fan of the hand on the lower back while pulling the girl close to talk into her ear.

*talk about them the whole time and keep the focus on their passions as i uncover them throughout the night. when the girl starts to ask a bunch of questions about me i know i'm golden.

1. during the week I stopped at a brewery / restaurant for lunch (i'm in outside sales so i eat lunch alone most days). this day I didn't feel like eating alone and when i was one of the only people in the restaurant for lunch (it was early about 11:30) I made the most of it and told my cute waitress (HB7) to sit down because I had needed her advice. I told her about my night out the weekend before and how a girl likes me that i want to just be friends with. she said asked if this happens a lot. at this point i new where she was going with it but sometimes its nice to get a compliment so i went fishing. i asked her why she thought that and she said that i was good looking. well after an hour and a half of non stop talk she asked me if she could give me her number. i let her put her number in my phone and she has asked me to come out this weekend with her. also after lunch she remarked how awesome i was for asking her to sit down. she said that the other girls are so jealous. i plan to do this a lot more when i get lunch.

2. while out at a more upscale bar / bowling alley a couple weeks ago with a group of friends i was the first to sit down at the lane when the waitress walked up. she was very attractive (hb8) and i made strong eye contact. i asked her a few questions and flirted some, then she took the drink order and wandered off. i thought she was just doing the normal flirting for a tip, but as the night went on her visits at our lane lasted longer and longer. my female friends were starting to comment about me and her. at one point she was so locked into conversation with me to the side for about 5 minutes that i said "aren't you supposed to be taking care of more than just me". she said i was more fun than her other lanes and kept on talking to me for a few minutes. now towards the end of the night i asked her how old she was and she said 20. Being 25 and not a huge fan of girls still in college especially under 21 I opted to not ask for a number.

3. In the summer right after a horrific breakup I went to my favorite local bar a few times a week. every time i'd go i'd either be with a big group of friends which always included hot girls or i'd be one on one with dates or female friends. this one waitress who is easily an HB9 would always wait on me. well after a few weeks of flirting and her seeing me with a number of beautiful women she finally pulls me aside and said "i see you here with hot girls all the time, either you are a pimp or gay". i asked her which she thought it was and she replied "you dress very well so probably gay, but i'm hoping not". i took it as a compliment and let her know i'm very straight. later that night she pulled me aside again and asked if i was on facebook, i said that i was. she then ripped my iphone from me and friended herself from my profile. from there she was liking my status updates and pictures pretty regularly. the following weekend at the end of the night i asked her to "close me out" and she said "ask you out? you want me to ask you out?" i laughed at her misunderstanding me then i realized holy shit is she really coming onto me that blatantly? the worst part was that it was that weekend that i was moving 500 miles away for a new job and a fresh start. i told her that i was moving and she was disappointed. we still keep in touch some but after 5 months it has fizzled substantially.

to conclude, with the art of seduction you can obtain any girl. also, when you treat any person in a service industry with respect and a legit interest in them as a person you will almost always get better service. to really be honest i get a ton of free shit because of how well i treat them. hope you guys enjoy and can at least be inspired to continue to learn and step outside your comfort zone. best of luck out there.