what's wrong with me?
I keep complaining to myself about how I have no friends or how I get lonlier by the day cause of it but when the opportunity arrives where I can meet new people like an invite to a wedding or to hang out once in a blue moon, my first instinct is to back out.
Posted Nov 15, 2021, 12:59 AM UTC
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Social anxiety is a mf. You gotta break out of your shell dude. That's really the only way. Realize that you got nothing to lose by going to these things and everything to gain. Even if the most embarrassing thing in the world happens to you, you'll at least learn something and have a funny story to tell in the future. Sounds like a win to me. Don't let a little anxiety cost you some great experiences in life.
I'm socially awkward as much as ik but I don't think I'm anxious. my insecurities do run across my mind at times but not enough to make me anxious. I do have less experiences on the whole which makes me less interesting and have less to talk about to people.
the first thought is that I don't like to go there and remember how bored I was being at one of these places and that I would hate it if i go there which leaves me absolutely not motivated to make any effort to go.
I'm not a doctor or a therapists but I do know that social anxiety comes in all shapes in sizes. It could be your thing or it couldn't be. Who knows. Either way, I 100% feel you on going to places where the chances of you being bored are high. You have to change the way you think though when it comes to these things. Yeah you might be bored at this place, but if you weren't there, you'd be bored at home. At least while you're out, you can be social, you can run into something cool, you can have some good food, possibilities are endless. Even if nothing spectacular happens, you went and saw some new faces and that's a victory to me. Just go do things and make the best of it.
you're right.
the last time I was at one of these events, I got bored for a long time and even worse is amongst people to whom I had nothing to say to them. it's a very uncomfortable awkward lonlier feeling than being alone at home. I look around having a lot of people of my age enjoy themselves and have a lot to talk about but there I am, young and unexciting.
Like I said man, you got nothing to lose for just going and putting yourself out there. You don't need to be exciting or the life of the party every where you go. Just go spark a convo with someone and go from there. Even if it lasts 10 seconds, that's a win.
I mean this in the nicest way possible but you might be somewhere on the spectrum. Socially awkward, bored easily, distaste for public gatherings. Seems like you might just have to bite down and force yourself to do more things and hope that once you get there you might enjoy yourself.