Turn your horn into a weapon

TL/DR: Change your 90 day goal from the abstract concept of a reboot, to a solid day or two of 'luxury' PMO, and I think you're more likely to reach your destination.

I was reading an interview linked here earlier, where an author talked about the cue-routine-reward pattern of a habit, and how we need to focus on the cue and the reward to make a change easier.

The problem with nofap is a very abstract reward. Lots of people report varying results, lots of people say nothing has changed. Its a very difficult process, with possibly no substantial reward. Also, I'm a foreveraloner right now and have been for years, the thought of being with a real girl is alien to me. No wonder most people give in.

So I thought, I need a real reward here if I'm going to stick to it. The problem is for people like us there is no reward that compares with a huge, heaving orgasm over pornography. Some chocolate or a nice new game for my playstation isn't going to cut it.

The only thing that trumps an orgasm is a better orgasm; A 'Luxury Orgasm' (corny I know).

As daily masturbators we stumble from stream to stream and get by day to day. I'm sure most of us have seen something, a link or advert or whatever, and thought how good it would feel to splash out on our habit, but we never do. We can't afford it that day, and hell my pants are down right now, so we absent-mindedly push it off as some fantasy we'll carry out in the vague future. But what if we were gifted a full set of balls and an envelope stuffed with bills, what would we do?

I think I would enjoy a nice hour long session with one of those chatline girls on TV. I'd be proud of my willpower and confident to talk to her, and I'd have the dough to just chat for ages. Rather than being ashamed, shy, poor and desperate to get off in under a minute. For you it might be different. How about a hooker, or a visit to a strip club. Or a few sessions with an amazing camgirl. Or a year long pass to your favorite fap site. A year long pass to rapidshare. Whatever floats your boat.

This is my point; if I'm in the middle of an urge, if I think of putting it off for this real, tangible amazing PMO, then I feel like I can do that. I DONT feel like I can put it off because in the long run I might feel a bit better as a human being.

I propose that you take an envelope and put some bills in it. Then every week of no PMO, you add a set amount, whatever you can regularly afford and would miss if it was gone. If you watch porn or edge, you give up that weeks donation. If you O, you give up the whole amount. How you give it away is your business, give it to homeless or charity. Personally I'm going to leave it somewhere in an envelope with a note that says "Lost a bet with myself. Whoever finds this, please enjoy it".

Hopefully come day 90, the reboot has worked, you're a completely different person than you are right now, and you would be happy to spend the money on something else entirely, like flowers for your new girlfriend. Really its a win-win.

So, I don't know if this is a stupid idea or not, just thought I'd put it out there.