reddit.comPosted Dec 9, 2021, 4:02 AM UTC
There are lots of prep schools in Africa that thanks to conversion rates, brings tuition down to less than most. I personally know a black woman here in NYC that I dated from Memphis who's parents sent her and all her soblings to prep schools in Kenya.
For boys, you're taught how to move, talk, sit, eat, what type of cutlery goes with what type of meal, what spoons to use for certain deserts, how to network and so forth.
For girls, it's how to sit, eat, act in public, things to do for your man, what to do, taboos, dining etiquette. How to be more ladylike, how to get what you want by being feminine and so forth
Oh I forgot. Some people call them etiquette schools
Even outside of etiquette it’s taught in a lot of girls programs, at least in the south. I remember I was in a girls summer camp and we had to take “finishing” classes at the community center and they taught us how to properly use cutlery, how to sit, etc. I’m from mem too so maybe it’s just cultural here.
I tried to explain this to my boyfriend the other day and he looked at me like I had two heads but it is super common still.
In the U.S. organizations such as Jack & Jill serve part of this function for the black elite.
Jack & Jill
invitation only
Two of my cousins Jack and Jill Alums. Went to a HBCU, are AKAs even. My uncle is a Que, and his wife is an AKA.
Both not married, both late 30s, one became a mom in the last two years...
Dad (my Dad's brother) is a lawyer. His daughters(my cousins) are not married. They say can't find a man. His son is a Librarian...married a school teacher. I turned him onto KS, and he listened. He said he had to stop because it makes him upset with his daughters. But he said, he was telling them the same stuff for years. He said he accepted he won't get to give his daughters away at a wedding.
I can tell this is a VERY sensitive subject for him. They still live with him in the $2M house they were raised in too. Its all very weird.
Trust me they have had lots of suitors over the years.
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You're like an infinite repository of these messed up stories, lol. Yeh, I think J&J, and the debutante balls, and all that stuff messes people up by giving them some kind of fairly tale ideas about life. Kinda acting like they've made it before they've really made it, which is exactly how wealth is destroyed and lives fail to launch. I'm probably lucky to not have been involved in all that - it looked very fake from the outside. I did kinda want to meet some of the girls though :-) but naw I was nowhere near bougie enough, drove an old Chevy instead of a new BMW in HS. Even back then I knew I was gonna be well off someday and reach the lifestyle, but I also knew I was going to have to work crazy hard to get there - I think that's what some of these people are missing with this stuff.
Yes, as a kid my fam was too poor for me to be invited. Their loss.
You mean to tell me that charm school on VH1 wasn’t helpful?
I’m teaching my daughters how to be wives for free.99. You don’t need finishing school to learn manners and etiquette.
If you have bo clue what it is to start with you mist definitely do.
I was a wife, I have manners, I move through high society with ease. I am qualified.
I didn’t know these kind of schools still exist.
Same r/todayilearned