28f never been in a relationship. Red flag?

My older sister never had a relationship until her late 20s. And now she’s married. I think you’re just selective and that’s not the main thing in your mind. For a lot of girls, men is on their mind and are actively seeking a relationship or to date. If you put effort into dating you’re bound to find someone. I don’t think you should be self conscious about it though.

It's a red flag... to them and their concept of a relationship partner. Doesn't mean it's a red flag to everyone. It doesn't sound like you have any issues making friends, just haven't found anyone that you feel the connection necessary to go that next step with. It happens. My kids are both in their 20's and have never had an SO but neither have trouble making friends. Some of that has been schedule, some of that has been "access" or exposure to people - they just haven't met anyone they truly clicked with.

My gf was 32 when she started dating me and I was her first bf. It's ok. Life isn't a race for first place. Go at your own pace 🙂

It isn't to me. I don't care about a partners past too much.

First I do not think most guys care enough to ask.

Second I do not think most guys would care if you told them.

Third you are free to just lie and say you have had 2 or 5 or 18 or 52 relationships. What are they going to do ask for references? This is only an issue inside your mind.

Wait you mean you're a virgin or you only had casual sex, no relationships?

I'm 35, I've only had 2 short relationships and have been single for quite a few years at this point. I really like being single and free. Would it bother you to date me because I've essentially been single for like 98% of my life? If not, then you shouldn't worry about that extra 2% for you. Being independent and comfortable with yourself is way more important to most healthy individuals and if you find the right person, all the silly extra shit and failures that other people had to deal with won't make any difference.

In my opinion "not being able to keep a guy around" means to have a lot of short term relationships. But this isn't the case. You just never startet one out of honesty. You maybe need a little exercise in socialising but that is not necessarily a red flag and does not mean you're not able to keep someone. In my youth I was pretty insecure because people around me would loose their virginity at the age of 14 and had plenty ex relationships at 20. I met my first partner at 22. Now 10 years later we are still going strong. Don't let them talk you down. Everyone has their own time.

On thé flip side, it means you’re independent and if you do end up serious with someone they will know it’s because you’re really into THEM and not because you can’t be alone.