My GYNO said the word "surgery" before I did.

I have been fearing this conversation since I was 17, and the doctor told me you have to have 2 kids before you get your tubes tied. So instead, we settled on a Paragard IUD

I went to have a well woman's exam. Not because anything was wrong. I wanted to become established with a gyno. I will need my IUD removed this year. I wanted to ask about my options for sterilization. But I remembered how the last time, the Doctor shut me down very quickly.

So, I said "what are my options after removing the IUD?" And she said " we can put a new IUD in, same day. Or we can get you scheduled with a surgeon"

AND MY BRAINS EXPLODED

I asked if she was referring to getting my tubes tied or a full hysterectomy. And GYNO said the surgeon will help me figure out which surgery is right for me. I asked if I would receive any push back, or hurdles of formal permissions needed for for the surgery. GYNO says, "no. The only risk is possible regret. And after 10 years of BC, you are clearly decided"

While I was dumbfounded, and unnecessarily asking if she is "sure". she asked if I was in a committed relationship, and if they were on the same page. But she never asked for my "husband's permission".

I have a surgery consultation at the end of the month. Wish me luck.