A polite request to Jews-by-birth.

As a convert, and one who does not actively advertise this fact--mostly because some people can be very, very judgmental of converts who are less frum than the Vilna Gaon--I have a polite request for the Jews-by-birth of r/judaism.

I understand that it may be surprising, when you find out one of your friends or acquaintances was not born Jewish. It is only natural that you are curious as to how and why he or she became Jewish. What I ask is that, before asking the question, "why did you become Jewish," you count to ten, take a deep breath, and decide not to ask that question at all.

I know there are some converts who love explaining why they converted and who have no problem answering that question. But we are not all like that, and whether we choose to publicly trumpet our achievement in joining the Jewish people or whether we choose to keep that achievement to ourselves, other Jews should respect our choice. Conversion is so deeply personal a process that one's motivation for it usually cannot be easily or glibly expressed, and putting someone on the spot to explain something that personal is incredibly insensitive.

I know y'all in r/judaism are a thoughtful bunch, but I was put in this situation again last night, and it felt terrible, so I thought I would make a reminder in a place where some Jews might see it.