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I would just like to say that this article blew me away. The author was reasonable, intelligent, and funny - I found myself unable to continue due to laughter more than once! I didn't completely buy the point at the end about exchanging obedience for love, but the other 90 percent of the article was brilliant.

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The author wrote a book on the subject, Against Love. I have yet to read it, but if you like her style you may enjoy it.

Regarding the 'exchanging obedience for love' point, there is something drearily subjugating about long term relationships. This quote from the article sums up the feeling nicely, and I feel it's hard to argue with it's point:

"What current social institution is more enclosed than modern intimacy? What offers greater regulation of movement and time, or more precise surveillance of body and thought, to a greater number of individuals?"

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I think I'll check it out, thanks!! I guess I haven't really been in or around a long-term relationship, so I can't relate very well, but that point does seem to make more sense the more I think about it.

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Obedience/submission= love

This concept has always kind of puzzled me. On the one hand, I guess I can see that being willing to submit to someone does indicate that you care about them because, certainly, who would willingly submit to someone for any other reason? But on the other hand, who would want someone that always just does what you want? Being in control of someone like that would just make one - maybe just me - feel like that person's parent. Who would ever want to be married to their parent?

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