Question about looking at other men as a bisexual man (see description for details)...

Yes? A hot guy is a hot guy. Some are less interested when they find out he’s straight, some are more. Do straight guys not find a woman attractive because she’s a lesbian?

I just found out 2 months ago that I am bisexual

You talk as if you've just been diagnosed with covid in a rapid test. Uh huh.

It's something that happens naturally lol. I still assume most straight guys are made uncomfortable by the thought of a gay guy eyeballing them lol so I try to be a courteous gentleman and not stare at their virtue.

Unless the man is staring at me I don’t look at him regardless of how attractive he is, it’s a good solution because then I don’t get rejected or give a straight man the satisfactory of telling the story of how “all gays want him and hit on him”

I don't have much of a gaydar and why would I refrain looking at hot guys because they are straight? We just see guys and if they are attractive look at them just like straight guys do with women. That's a pretty weird question thh.

I like guys too. But don't look at them at all. Bcoz anyone can sense if someone is looking at them. And I don't like giving someone this proud feeling that they are appealing to me. For this reason I try not to make eye contact not even for a sec. But still doubtful about looking at people even in non sexual ways. Bcoz people look at each other all the time( do they?). What's wrong with me?

LMAO yes you can look at whoever so long as you aren't being a creep. you're overthinking it! if you can look at and talk to women you can talk to other guys. they're just people after all :) it gets more comfortable as time goes on tho, trust

I just LOVE MEN, PERIOD, whether they be gay, straight, etc.

I often really think that I love men more than women do!

I sometime feel like I’m more attracted to straight guys. Not sure why. Perhaps it may be that I’m a bottom and want to be man dominated

not sure how legit a gaydar actually is (mine is broken or it's gone, lol), but yeah i look at every guy who is my type, and considering that most guys happen to be straight i'm sure i'll be looking at straight guys most of the times. however for obvious reasons i'll not go further if i know a guy is straight.

and obviously i'll do it in a way the guy won't realize. kinda awkward getting checked out by a guy as a straight guy, so yeah for obvious reasons i just peek but don't stare, and then move on.

basically you can look at whoever you want. but no matter how nice, sweet or cute a guy might be to you, when he says he's straight then he is. it happens a lot that we get a crush on our straight bestie and despite knowing he's straight we keep getting mixed feelings and that's when things can get messy or friendships destroyed.

that being said, just like a straight guy doesn't check out every female human that is passing by, i assume gay guys don't check out every single guy either.

also a rookie here btw. recently accepted the fact i'm not straight and most likely gay. i guess whatever female attraction that is left right now is what was being taught to me while i grew up (that guys like girls, and so forth..)

It is not that if someone is straight then it is an instant turn on for a gay guy, No you have to be hot first, maybe it is that straight guy personality which is hot, or maybe his look is my type, I know masculanity is attractive, but it is not enough at least for me

90% of the posts on this sub are people fawning over straight guys they can't have.

How do you just “find out” you’re a “bi” is beyond me.

I just found out 2 months ago that I am bisexual, so I'm still a rookie, but I don't know if I can look at every guy I find attractive.

Discreetly sure. But, even women find it really uncomfortable if you stare at them noticeably in public. When judging if a guy is physically attractive, I don't care what's happening in their brain.

You can check out any guy or girl regardless of their sexuality, just do it in a manner that is ethical, not creepy. Staring for prolonged amount of time as well as eyeballing a person top to bottom is rude and creepy regardless of their gender or the situation.

Yeah, no filter. Because, people are people. You can look but there are risks.

I’ll check out any man I think is hot, I can usually guess somewhat intuitively whose gay but not always. I won’t hit on a straight man though, I respect their autonomy and understand they don’t want someone they aren’t into coming on to them.

“Look at” absolutely. Pursuing is a different story.

I don’t care what someone’s sexual orientation is if I’m just looking.

Alright a lot of you gave me good answers, thanks for that.

Do you look at women in a sexual way.. yes your being judged