wtf is going on; please help me
Can someone please help me figure out what this man is doing because it is driving me off the wall
About four months ago I (23F) hooked up with a guy (24M). We had talked for about a month before this and had great conversations and he made me feel like he actually wanted to date me but when he was finally back in my area his suggestion was to just hook up and the way he framed it my friends and I all thought he was joking because he had never even said anything suggestive to me before.
I was pretty bummed but went ahead with it because I had never done anything like this and wanted to experience what it was like and see if I was meant for that lifestyle. (Long story short I'm not.)
So after hooking up, which was the most insane experience of my life he was moving me around like I was in the matrix and it went so long it hurt me, he basically just got up and walked away and didn't want to do any aftercare which I had made it very obvious I needed it after he absolutely wrecked me. Instead he just made me feel uncomfortable until I left even though he had promised over text we would watch anime. Pretty bummed ngl
After I drove home he texted me he had a great time and I felt so gross and disgusting I said we wanted different things. But the next morning I messaged and asked him to clarify what he was looking for and he ended up giving me a lot of non answers.
We had planned to meet again but he never followed up and basically ghosted me.
I ended up soft blocking him on Instagram (meaning neither of us followed eachother) but since about two months ago I noticed he views my story at the same time on the same days every week. He hasn't spoken to me so obviously he doesn't care about me, but it is just like why is he purposely searching up my profile week after week for months. It feels really weird and not like normal lurking behavior. he is also incredibly incredibly attractive and has definitely hooked up with a lot of people after me so I dont understand the need to do this every week for months.
I messaged him "do you just like looking at my memes" gave him an hour to respond (he would normally respond withing minutes) and then blocked him for the sake of my mental health, but I was wondering what his motive is and if there is any way to fix this? I feel ashamed to admit but I really really liked this man and hate this situation so any advice would be so helpful.
Additional info: I would also like to mention, he had massive box of condoms and the only picture in his room was of a woman about the be run over by a car. These to me felt like red flags.
Tldr: Guy ghosted me after hookup but continues to look at my story on specific days for months despite not following my Instagram so he is purposely looking me up. Is he playing mind games? What is the point of this? What should I do?
Posted May 4, 2022, 1:40 AM UTC