Helllpp

I want my hair to be more wavy. It gets wavy when I don’t use any product. But then it gets frizzy. So I put on friz things, but then it gets curly!!! I can’t win! My hair is long so it drags down the curls if I leave it without product, but then friz. Any tips???

Edit: what is my staple routine is after the shower coming my hair and then putting friz cream just on my crown I think is the word and then combing that through. So the top of my head does not have this problem.