33 [M4F] #NYC Spanko dom looking for lifelong adventure partner

I'm looking for a low-key DD relationship. That is, I want us to be doing cutesy couple things most of the time, relating as equals; but sometimes I will lay down the law, and I'll expect obedience (or else...)

In particular, I'm looking for the emotional intimacy that comes from both parties having those needs. As the Little Prince said, you become responsible, forever, for what (or whom) you have tamed.

I would describe myself as post-ambitious: I spent my 20s grinding up the corporate ladder, and it was highly rewarding, but I'm looking to fill out the other areas in my life now. At the moment, I'm practicing archery, growing mushrooms, taking a cooking bootcamp, and dabbling in EDM. Ideally, you'll be down to accompany me for some of these pursuits, or introduce me to some fun new ones. I'm also down to date someone who's more career-focused; as long as you have curiosity and drive, we'll get along.

About me: Chinese Singaporean who's been in the US for 12 years now, 6'0", slim-ish at 173 lbs (targeting 160 lbs by summer), and a (pretty damn good) software engineer. I've been told that I have some k-pop / anime boy / pretty boy vibes, but you be the judge: https://imgur.com/a/BUb7YUa

Kinks: I'm a spanko at my core, though I'm happy to dabble in other branches of the BDSM tree. But what really gets me going are disciplinary-type spanking scenes with scoldings and a good deal of embarrassment thrown in. I'm more than happy to deal with brats; the more reasons I have to dole out punishment the better 😈

I'm basically monogamous. Willing to do some group scenes, but poly is off the table. I've been through a number of relationships already, both kink and vanilla, so I have a reasonable idea of what I want. I'm hoping that my next relationship will be my last (i.e. I'm down to tie the knot with the right person), so I hope you're similarly serious.

I'm in Jersey City, just one PATH stop away from WTC. I can drive, and am happy to go the distance if you're worth it ;)

Preferred attributes (none of which are hard requirements):

• 23-33
• East Asian / Caucasian
• Reasonably in shape
• Artsy (very optional! I just have a history of dating artsy types, but I'm totally down to date an engineer.)

Bonus points if you're short.