For partners of trans women, what do you do to make your partner feel feminine?

And trans women, is there anything that your partner does that makes you feel feminine?? More so than usual?

Throwaway because my gf knows my reddit and will call me a dork for this post.

I don’t know if “feminine” is the super exact right word, but my (afab nb lesbian she/they) partner (mtf lesbian she/her) likes to feel very feminine and pretty and small and cute. She’s definitely the femme in our relationship while I’m a total tomboy. And while she says I make her feel like herself, and obviously she’s a woman and I treat her accordingly, I want to have extra things I can do to help on dysphoric days and such. We’ve been friends for 7ish years, dating for almost 3 if it matters. Also we live together.

The thing is, despite being afab, I’m REALLY bad at “girl stuff” and my parents never forced femininity on me really? I don’t know what feminine girls like, or what makes them feel feminine and pretty and cute, especially in a relationship. Especially when they might not feel like “a real girl” all the time, which are the times I REALLY want to make her feel like she’s an amazing special lady who is absolutely a real lady and my favorite one at that.

So far I paint her nails (even though I’m kinda bad at it), I bring her flowers out of the blue, and of course I tell her how beautiful she is every chance I get. But I want to do more!! I just love her so much!!! Oh and sometimes I do the gay “put your snapback on your girlfriend” thing but she tends to give it back after a minute so???? Maybe she is unaware of the gay hat thing. Or she doesn’t like hats. Idk.

Thing is, the “small and cute” thing is a little harder because, unfortunately, I’m the short one. And I don’t have the money for really tall platform boots right now. (Legit going to try that tho.) But being short makes it kind of hard to do things like, y’know, casually wrap my arm around her, because I gotta stretch my arm weird and then her neck is at a funny angle and it’s all very silly looking.

So TLDR, I want to make my wife feel extra feminine especially on dysphoric days, but also just casually because I know it makes her feel good and validated in her identity. And I’m in really gay love with her.