The Shocking Disappearance Act

Edit: this is a throwaway

I straight (21 f) had my tinder hookup over for the second time (24 m). The first time we had sex it was great, I definitely felt a little inexperienced because we tried new things, nonetheless he asked me what I liked, didn’t like, and taught me what the prone bone was. We both came and he asked to use my shower after. He left, things were fine.

Then last night he came over again, and I started to notice red flags. On his way he asked me if I was bi or straight and I asked why, his response was that he wanted to know if any of my friends were down for a threesome. I responded and said no that I keep my friends and sex life private.

He gets here, we’re in the middle of sex and then he asked me if I’ve ever done anal and when I said no he asked if I would be down to try, and I said no.

The sex wasn’t that good this time around. He isn’t really vocal, tried way too hard at dirty talk, and rushed the for play. I also noticed that when we’re having sex it’s like he stays in his head… when I gave him head it felt like he’s imagining the feeling with someone else? I like eye contact while giving a guy head and he was just in his head the entire time. No feedback no grunts just imagining….

This is where it gets more weird. He’s pulls out and says he’s gonna cum and doesn’t, he says that he “lost it.” He sits on my bed to catch his breath and asks if he can shower which I’m fine with, but this time I wanted to shower first.

I shower, pee, and I get back to my room door open and he was completely gone… I’m down for hooking up but it honestly made me feel really shitty about myself. Thoughts? Did I do something wrong?