Phexxi pregnancy

Hi y’all! I’m getting a little desperate here trying to find BC. I’ve expelled TWO copper IUDs and because of some very intense breast cancer family history, have been strongly warned away from hormonal BC by my moms specialist (an MD). Because there’s less of a risk with hormonal IUDs/nuva ring, I’ve tried both but my anxiety has just been through the roof or my sex drive in the toilet and now I’m just insufferable (lmfao).

I really want to try phexxi with tracking my cycle (temping and all) AND pulling out - and I keep reading horror stories about it! Were all of u that we’re using phexxi and got pregnant pulling out too? At this point I’m willing to resort to condoms, but they’re such a pain, I want someone to tell me I have another option lol