Women are confusing
I was dating a girl for ~6 months, until we talked after school on Friday (5/6) and she told me she no longer had feelings for me. She said she still wanted to be friends, but she felt like she was lying to me and felt bed since she felt like I was putting in way more effort.
I was stressing about it all weekend cuz she didn’t really tell me much. I talked to a few of my friends, the guy who was kinda my wingman, and a girl (for female perspective) who moved last year but we still keep in touch. They both said it probably meant she liked another guy, but I didn’t believe them, cuz the girl I was dating wasn’t the kind of person to “bounce around”, so to speak.
We ft’ed for a while tonight, maybe like half an hour. We didn’t really talk much over the weekend and I said I wanted to talk more than just the short convo we had after school on Friday. We talked for a while, and she basically said that she didn’t know what changed or why it did, but she didn’t have the romantic feelings for me that she used to, and that she had been thinking that for ~3 weeks. She said she didn’t want to hurt me and still wanted to be friends because I treated her really well and was really sweet, but that she didn’t want romance because she felt like it was a lie.
We ended up deciding that we would take some space to really process how we feel, and go from there. I obviously still have feelings for her. I’m not really expecting much to change. She said if she could figure out why/how she lost feelings she would tell me, but if she couldn’t over the past 3 weeks, I doubt she’s gonna now.
Has anybody been in a similar situation? Does anybody have any ideas as to what might have caused it to happen?
Oh, and I have my AP World test on Thursday, so that’s wonderful.
TL/DR: gf broke up w me after 6 months bc she lost feelings but doesn’t know what caused her to lose them.
Edit: just kind of complaining at this point, but after that AP exam, I’ll have about 15 minutes to eat, and then leave for my tennis conference tournament. It’s gonna be 90 degrees.
Posted May 10, 2022, 3:48 AM UTC · edited
I’ve been on both sides of this sort of situation. Sometimes people just lose feelings toward others with no particular reason to it. Sometimes there is a reason but it takes a while for them to figure out, and sometimes it’s obvious. There could be a million reasons and then some, but I wouldn’t dwell on it too much. She’s still talking to you and isn’t actively avoiding you, so it probably isn’t really your fault.
Yah, she made it pretty clear that it wasn’t something I had done or really related to me beyond not having feelings anymore. You don’t have to if you feel it’s too personal, but can you give me any of the reasons? I’m tryna figure this out for myself and even though I know I’ll prob have to the thought of having to accept it without a reason isn’t really appealing to me.