[Serious] People who work at schools, why did you punish bullying victims for finally snapping at their bullies instead of punish the bullies at the beginning of the cases?

hey, you okay buddy?

Not My workplace, but probably because they are used to watch the bully do something, so when the victim reacts in a violento way, they are surprised.

I'd also love to know what people say. Teachers have done fuck all to help kids going home with black eyes but as soon as that kid finally fights back now it's a problem

Because schools don't care about bullying. They implement zero tolerance policies and then just wave their hands at anything that makes them look bad.

It is zero tolerance because they protect the bully by default. Bullies are actually quite profitable by school, as they are often the popular kids or jocks, etc. The ones who bring the scouts into the schools.

They don’t give a shit about the nerd or quiet kid, who isn’t the star on the football team.

I can tell you from my own experience, getting the law involved does a lot more damage than getting violent back. The ROs I got cancelled out a lot of full rides and any kickback funding the school got.

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the amount of times i got detention as a kid for fighting arseholes is unreal, they are horrible and need to be taught not to be horrible but instead you punish people who stand up for themselves and others when they see it as completely not okay.

Is easier and the kid is use to being picked on. It builds character we'll tell them.

The school took me to the side, asked me wtf i was doing. I had taken him in head and ass and thrown him (i was a really big kid, at least a head taller than everyone else, and was swimming competetively) across asphalt, not the smooth kind, but the really really rough kind. He got lots of really bad scrapes, and told a teacher. They asked me what i was doing. I told them he extorted the small kids for money and bullied others. They told me to talk to them about it, and not take matters into my own hands.

I told them i had already told a teacher, he said it was not his problem, and then i did it, because they didn't want to do their job, i had to. I got sent to sit in class, but was later told, they took the bully, and the kids he bullied, talked to them, found out everything, they told the bullys parents, and i was let go. But got reprimented to talk to a teacher another time, to where my answer was "sure, if you are going to do your job".

My teacher had never seen me angry before that, because i was always happy and smiling, so he could barely believe the story, and asked me about it before class one day. He simply said "allright, well, tell me another time, but i would have done the same".

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