new to switching and femdom but want to vent

(M 28 in a loving marriage with my sub ) So I have been in the community as a penis weilding Daddy Dom since 2014 but for the past year I have been wanting to branch out in to femdom as a sub (never been a sub before) I have tried and tried and tried to find a friendly femdom online and every time I think I find someone that would like to try any kind of dynamic with me the first thing they ask me is for "donations" even after saying in intro conversations that I am not a pay pig and I am not looking for or wanting to be in a findom situation and I'm not bashing those that truly love findom and get enjoyment out of it but not every man wants to be used financially

Its become so frustrating and quite frankly upsetting to think how many times my hopes have been dashed because of what Imo feels like a fake Dom I couldn't imagine being a part of and being accepted as part of this community without listening to the the wants needs and most of all limits of a new sub/play partner

All I want is some fun and to be told I'm a good boy at the end of the day but it seems that more and more people are just trying to make money rather than being part of the community