My wife came back from a deployment and wants out of our marriage...WTF? Help reddit!

I dated my current wife for about 2 years. Long distance relationship the entire time. We're both military. We have fought and fought to get stationed together and finally our dreams came true. i left for a deployment june 11' came back dec 11'. she left for hers jan 12' and just came back may 12', she came back to what i thought was going to be our "kick start" of a marriage finally being together....turns out she wants a divorce. We had been arguing a bit, but i always blamed the distance. it's easy to argue and say mean shit to someone over text/skype when you can just shut off your phone or close the comp. When we're together we talk things out it's great, but now we won't get a chance to be a real married couple living together. She came back and laid this on me, I didn't see it coming, her family didn't my friends her friends NO ONE. I automatically assumed there was another man involved. she has never lied to me nor can she. she is a terrible liar and whenever she tries i can read it on her within seconds. At first, we were going to do paperwork and get it done really quick, but i think reality started to settle in on both of us and we both kind of freaked out. I was going to do all the paperwork, but i thought...i don't want to do something against my own free will. I love this girl, more than anything, and want nothing more to be with her. I refuse to file for divorce...if she wants to she will have to herself. I understand the legal aspect of all of this, we do own a house with no kids. We don't hate each other, or are mean to each other. We are very cordial and love each other still. Well i love her and am IN love with her...she just says she loves me but doesn't want to be with me ...right now (as she always throws that in there). She recently told me( 2 days ago) she wanted to hold off on filing for divorce for a bit....then she dropped "i think i'll be coming back to you"....i can tell she's a lost soul. she's bouncing all over the place with her emotions. We are going to do a trial separation i guess we could call it. she says that i have prevented her from fulfilling her dreams (traveling, school etc etc) she said she was too young for marriage and she says she's acting like she's 40 when she's only 24. i've tried to tell her we can do everything she wants and follow through with her dreams with my support, but she just isn't having it. There is a lot more to the story but this scratches the surface...i don't know what to do. I'm up and down each day. I'm destroyed in my heart, but my head keeps telling me everything will be okay. I always have hope just picture her coming back to me, but then the devil shows up and i picture my self without her and become depressed. any advice? wise words? thanks in advanced reddit, your the best

Edit 1: I guess i should have mentioned that she is moving out next week to live with friends. I guess my original post made it seem like no big deal but we're going through the movements of her packing up everything that is hers in this house we bought (that i'm taking) and she's moving all her stuff out.