[FR] Didn't feel like going out last night, still did, got a number
So a friend of mine invited me out to a bar last night. I get there and see there really aren't too many attractive girls there. Regardless, I talk to them just to have fun. They turn out to be nice people. I practice my kino a bit, make some jokes, act cocky and funny, etc. So my friend and I eventually leave to another bar, where his friend is. She's like a HB7 and is with 3 other girls, all ranging from a 7-9. Two of them however, one of which was a 9 had a boyfriend.
So my friend went out to smoke with two of the girls and I'm sitting there just drinking my jack and ginger. I notice that the two girls they left me with are both on their phones with a pretty bored expression on their faces. So I just say "You look like you're having fun" and HB9 just smiles and we start talking. I'm making her laugh and I'm not nervous at all, guess that's what happens when you go out 3 days in a row. Anyway, we just talk until my friend gets back, the girl goes to charge her phone somewhere in the bar (wtf?) and basically becomes antisocial the rest of the night. Old me would have been let down by this, but all I thought was "Fuck it, there's 3 more girls to talk to." Then one girl left and it was my friend and I and 3 girls. I start talking to the hot blonde friend, I would say she's an 8. I do the usual thing I do, make her laugh. Throughout the conversation I try to kinda position myself closer to her, probably so she can hear what I'm saying but point is, she does not shy away. I pussied out because I probably could have kissed her or gotten her number but whatever, I got to know her. I made fun of her for having a picture of herself as her iPhone wallpaper, then she showed me a picture of her nephew.
So she eventually left. Then my night consisted of me just talking to my friend and his friend, HB7. HB7 said we should come out tonight to a club and I just got her number. I was hesitant until she said "Me and my friend know how to have fun." So then it was 5 am and I walked to the subway to head home.
I texted the girl this morning to find out what the deal with the club is, and she said she isn't going anymore. We had a small conversation that I can post here if you guys want to read more.
What I learned from the night is how much I really changed since I got access to bars. Seriously, I'm much more confident now compared to how I was a few months ago. I realized that my best approach with women is to just be dickish but funny. It may have slightly been the alcohol that helped but I'm so much more social now. It was a huge improvement when I just walked over to the hot friends and started talking. I could not do that before. I still have to figure out a way to get numbers faster though. Any tips on that? Should I just try being direct when getting a number?
I also have to keep in mind to watch body language a little more as well. And I have to start manning up in terms of making physical moves on a girl, especially since I'm now realizing I could have kissed the blonde girl before she left. Rejection still frightens me when it comes from physical contact.
Posted Jun 23, 2012, 11:56 PM UTC