Looking for ideas for any BDS[M] play which will *not* make her [f]eel degraded. Details inside.

My SO and I have tried some SM and bondage play so far, and nothing seems to really work well for her. The big issue is that she's no good for receiving pain and she ultimately craves intimacy and care over all in our sex life. I was wondering if anyone had any ideas for BDSM play which are low impact, very intimate, and would neither make her feel degraded nor trigger her.