Dear Reddit, since a recent event I am scared of living with my family and fear for my life. Simply leaving doesn't seem like an option though. Please give advice!
For some background info, I'm 22 years old and I live in a small town in Ontario Canada. My parents and brother smoke weed. I have never touched weed or cigarettes in my life. My brother is 27 years old, lives at home, gets welfare cheques, and buys and sells drugs because he could never work a real job if his life depended on it (more on this in a second). I am the only person in my family to ever graduate from college (I took Biotechnology). I have been out of school for over a year now and haven't been able to find a job for the life of me. Had many interviews and etc but no luck. I currently work part-time at a pharmacy (ironic I know, since my bro is addicted to fentanyl and oxy's) and make minimum wage.
So all my life growing up at home my brother always had terrible 'friends'. These people would break into our house, steal things from us, steal my parents weed, etc. I was always skeptical about living at home but never really scared because I thought they would never actually harm me.
Recently (last month a few days after Diablo 3 was released) my brother and I were home alone and some punks broke into our house. My brother heard the locks on the freezer door downstairs break off and reacted immediately. I followed him down the stairs, and down the driveway some kid was running towards a truck with a few pounds of my parents weed. My brother grabbed a shovel from the side of the house and chased them down the driveway standing in front of the truck before they could drive away. (I live at a dead end, last house on the road surrounded by forests and water, in the country). Of course my brother knew who they were and he was freaking out yelling at them swinging the shovel around threatening to hit the guy if he didn't give back the weed. All of a sudden the guy in the truck pulled out a revolver and I almost shit my pants. Then my brother pulled out a gun (I had no idea) and I'm sitting at the side of the road in shock. Eventually after all the screaming it's agreed that instead of a bunch of dead people they just gave back the pot and left. The neighbours witnessed what happened and called the police. Now the police have had lots of calls towards my house in the past because of drug problems (because of my stupid fucking brother) so we aren't on good terms with them. Oddly enough when the police came they treated us like the victims as if it was just a regular B n E. Long story short we didn't say anything about the weed, or about my brother having a gun. Only them having a gun. My brother and I had to do statements at the headquarters and etc.
My issue is that I DON'T WANT ANYTHING TO DO WITH THIS FUCKING SHIT! I am so sick and tired of having to defend my house, hide weed, settle stand-offs. Now my brother just came home saying how he was in town and some guy drove by and told him that "you and your family better watch their backs". I'm sitting in my room typing this and looking over my shoulder at my window thinking someone is going to put a round in the back of my head when I'm not looking.
Now my parents are amazing people. Like, if it wasn't for my brother they wouldn't have ANY problems at all. They don't sell it or anything they just buy a lot at once to save money and just smoke it. I don't want to get them in trouble at all. They are so soft too that they won't kick my bro out of the house because he literally has no where to go and would probably commit suicide. So I feel like I have no option but to leave. BUT I DON'T KNOW HOW! :(
I want to get the fuck out of Ontario. I hate this province and it is a sink hole of shit with no future for anyone. Can't find a proper job here or anything. I'm not sure if I should move out east, out west, to the states, or somewhere else in the world. I currently have $2,000 saved up. I don't have a car (I use my parents second car for work but they wouldn't let me take it to move away). I am not a huge risk taker when it comes to things, I like to have a plan. So just saying "$2,000? Take a bus somewhere, stay in a motel and look for a part-time job until you figure other things out."... what if I don't get a part time job and run out of money, then I'm back at square one trying to go back home and live with my family again.
I want to make a decision soon because I have a bad feeling about everything. Please Reddit I'll take any advice you can give me. Feel free to ask my any questions - I am very open with this kind of stuff and have no problems sharing answers. I know it all seems a little bizarre and probably unrealistic but it's all 100% true. Thanks in advanced.
Edit: TL:DR - MY family does drugs. My brother has shitty friends. There was a stand off with guns recently. Threats. I need to GTFO. Please help.
Posted Jun 24, 2012, 4:01 AM UTC